I'm going with my future wife to the US next week to meet her parents. Yikes. Since I'm a Belgian my wife suggested that I'd bring chocolats as a present. I guess I can do that but I think its hardly original. Any other suggestions, fellow Belgians and Belgium 'conaisseurs'?What should I bring my future parents in law from my home country Belgium?
1- Lace. You can never go wrong with lace and your future mother in law will love you.
2- You can also try goblin.
3- And at the flea markets, you can find some really very nice opalin house objects, vases, etc. Women just love opalin objects.
4- Finally, I think, Belgian crystal will be an expensive but interesting and exquisite option. Val Saint Lambert will definetely be a winner.What should I bring my future parents in law from my home country Belgium?
Chocolate is good, but coffee is better. We bring back some every time we go. our favourite is in a red %26amp; gold pack %26amp; in English the name means Grey Horse. The Belgian coffee is the best in the world. Cheese would be good as well. We visit friends %26amp; come home with as much as we can carry. Hope you enjoy your trip, %26amp; good luck.
belgium chocolates
ps i'm from antwerp
Waffles of Brussels,
lace
beer, beer, beer (one meter beer)
french fries (are from Belgium)
...
congratulations, and yes chocolates,and pack them in your suitcase they will be fine I do it all of the time and Lace Brussels or Brugge lace and your future mother inlaw will love you the Americans love all that go into the lace shops and ask you can get from initialled handkerchiefs to table cloths broaches you name it and its a lovely gift for a lady,does papa smoke ?box of cigars or a good wine?wrap in case with a toilet roll around the neck of the bottle and wrap well ?bubble wrap?maybe something from where you are from in Belgium?I am just back from Gent,that was my mothers home town and I still have family there love it and the people yes Belgium is a great place,hope this has helped you?take care and have a great trip.
My English mother-in-law loves Knorr stoofvleessausmix and 'bruin bier'. Hardly a present though. But beer might be? Some speciality beers would be nice if they are beer drinkers. Something lace possibly, Belgium is famous for it's lace? Real 'suikerwafels' or banana or pistachio filled chocolate bars from GB? I doubt if they sell it in America.
Zero chocolate bars (the ones you need to put in the fridge)are a real Belgian thing too. And it is definitly more original than chocolate from a chocolatier in a posh box.
Chocolate or send some beer :) My brother married a girl from Belgium and when she came over she brought everybody a ton of chocolate. We loved her right away. Her cousin also sent a few packages of beer. A few of them busted but not all so we were able to enjoy some Jupiler.
Thursday, May 13, 2010
What's the difference between foster parents and adopting a child?
I need some input for a paper I'm working on. Thanks alot!What's the difference between foster parents and adopting a child?
An important point that none of the answerers so far has made, is that foster care is not only meant to be temporary, but the State's first goal is reunification of the child with their parents, if that is possible and safe for the child.
The majority of children who enter foster care do not get adopted out, either because it's infeasible due to their age (many older children aren't interested in adoption), or because they go back home, to the non-custodial parent, or a relative.
Another difference is the licensing requirements. Foster parents are given a license that is effective for a limited time (2-4 years, depending on the state), and must renew it to continue fostering. Adoption, once finalized, is generally permanent unless the adoptive parent commits abuse/neglect. The requirements are generally similar, although the type of training is generally different.
Also: The Adoption and Safe Families Act requires that if a child has been removed from their home for 15 of the last 22 months, the state must proceed with termination of the parent's rights, and start trying to adopt the child out. That doesn't mean that the rights WILL be terminated - just that they have to file it with the court. It also doesn't mean the rights end at 15 months - the parent retains rights until the judge finally signs the order to terminate them.What's the difference between foster parents and adopting a child?
I believe that the major difference is the feeling of safety and permanence that being adopted gives to a child.
Foster parents take care of the child until adoptive parents can be found. It's a temporary situation.
Foster care is intended to be a temporary living situation for children. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foster_pare鈥?/a>
Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with a parent or parents other than the birth parents. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adoption
to give a housing analogy:
fostering = house sitting
adopting = buying with no intention to sell
Fostering a child is keeping the child in your home until the child can be return to the original family or is placed up for adoption. Adoption is when you become the parents of a child just like a biological parent would be giving birth to the child and have all the responsibilities of raising the child and adoption means you accept this child that someone else gave birth to into your family and it would be just like own child and you would raise it and assume all responsibilities like the biological parents would have.
Foster parents are wards of the state and are paid for the needs of the child. It is usually temporary.
Adopting is permanent and the child becomes legally yours.
foster parents get payed to take care of the child. Adopted parents do it out of love.
or at least there suppose to.
foster parents are tempary and are paid to take care of the kids. Adoptive parents get the child premantly and raise them as their own
Foster parents are usually the intermediary family between the child's removal from the birth family and being adopted my a new family or being placed back with the birth parents or family. Foster parents can adopt if they wish, once the birth parents or birth family has lost rights to the child. Basically, foster parents are used instead of orphanages. Adoptive parents have full guardianship of the child and foster parents have temporary custody.
there isnt much of a difference, i dont think. but i know foster parents are usually parents who take in many kids and take care of them as their own.
Foster parents are 'temporary' care givers to a child (even if temporary means a number of years) They do not hold all parental rights and generally have either their natural parents or the state as their legal guardian. To adopt means that you hold all parental rights as if the child was born by you.
adoption-means that a person has full custody of the child
foster parents-means that they have temporary custody of the child till an adoptive parent/s can be found or they can apply to be the adoptive parent/s
An important point that none of the answerers so far has made, is that foster care is not only meant to be temporary, but the State's first goal is reunification of the child with their parents, if that is possible and safe for the child.
The majority of children who enter foster care do not get adopted out, either because it's infeasible due to their age (many older children aren't interested in adoption), or because they go back home, to the non-custodial parent, or a relative.
Another difference is the licensing requirements. Foster parents are given a license that is effective for a limited time (2-4 years, depending on the state), and must renew it to continue fostering. Adoption, once finalized, is generally permanent unless the adoptive parent commits abuse/neglect. The requirements are generally similar, although the type of training is generally different.
Also: The Adoption and Safe Families Act requires that if a child has been removed from their home for 15 of the last 22 months, the state must proceed with termination of the parent's rights, and start trying to adopt the child out. That doesn't mean that the rights WILL be terminated - just that they have to file it with the court. It also doesn't mean the rights end at 15 months - the parent retains rights until the judge finally signs the order to terminate them.What's the difference between foster parents and adopting a child?
I believe that the major difference is the feeling of safety and permanence that being adopted gives to a child.
Foster parents take care of the child until adoptive parents can be found. It's a temporary situation.
Foster care is intended to be a temporary living situation for children. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foster_pare鈥?/a>
Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with a parent or parents other than the birth parents. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adoption
to give a housing analogy:
fostering = house sitting
adopting = buying with no intention to sell
Fostering a child is keeping the child in your home until the child can be return to the original family or is placed up for adoption. Adoption is when you become the parents of a child just like a biological parent would be giving birth to the child and have all the responsibilities of raising the child and adoption means you accept this child that someone else gave birth to into your family and it would be just like own child and you would raise it and assume all responsibilities like the biological parents would have.
Foster parents are wards of the state and are paid for the needs of the child. It is usually temporary.
Adopting is permanent and the child becomes legally yours.
foster parents get payed to take care of the child. Adopted parents do it out of love.
or at least there suppose to.
foster parents are tempary and are paid to take care of the kids. Adoptive parents get the child premantly and raise them as their own
Foster parents are usually the intermediary family between the child's removal from the birth family and being adopted my a new family or being placed back with the birth parents or family. Foster parents can adopt if they wish, once the birth parents or birth family has lost rights to the child. Basically, foster parents are used instead of orphanages. Adoptive parents have full guardianship of the child and foster parents have temporary custody.
there isnt much of a difference, i dont think. but i know foster parents are usually parents who take in many kids and take care of them as their own.
Foster parents are 'temporary' care givers to a child (even if temporary means a number of years) They do not hold all parental rights and generally have either their natural parents or the state as their legal guardian. To adopt means that you hold all parental rights as if the child was born by you.
adoption-means that a person has full custody of the child
foster parents-means that they have temporary custody of the child till an adoptive parent/s can be found or they can apply to be the adoptive parent/s
How is hereditary information passed from Parent to offspring?
Biology assignment. I might just be over thinking this but I don't know the answer.How is hereditary information passed from Parent to offspring?
Sexual reproduction. Good place to start thinking about.How is hereditary information passed from Parent to offspring?
by means of gamete (in the form of genes which is made of genetic materials i.e. DNA)
every cell in your body, including sperm and eggs have DNA. The DNA has the code that decides what your body looks and acts like. when you are created in your mothers womb your father and mothers dna combine. during that process the DNA changes a little bit. thats why you dont look exactly like your parents, just similar. from there, that new code reproduces and makes you
Gametes...your father gives you 1/2 in the form of the sperm and your mother gives you the other 1/2 in the form of the egg. When fertilization occurs the halves combine which gives you the DNA you have now!
Fusion of the gametes, the haploid cells from both the male and the female parent (gametes) to form a zygote, which will be diploid. The zygote wil be having a set of chromosomes from both the parents . During the process of cell division the chromosomes undergo crossing over and the genes on the chromosomes from both the male and the female parent leads to the exchange of genetic information between the homologous chromosomes and thus leads to the passing on of the hereditary information from the parents to the offspring . Hence the offspring wil be having the characters of both the parents.
Well, your mother produced the egg:
In your moms ovaries a process called meiosis occurred. in meiosis the parent cell, just like any other human body cell, starts out with 46 chromosomes (chromosomes being the things that code your parents genetic info) and through a series of phases, you'll end up with 4 daughter cells each with 23 chromosomes. That's 4 eggs that are carrying your mothers genetic info.
Then your father produced the sperm:
Meiosis also occurs in your fathers testis resulting in 4 sperm cells that are each carrying 23 chromosomes.
Now when your father and your mother ';made you,'; for the lack of a better term, the first sperm that got your you mothers egg fused with the egg making something called a ZYGOTE which will have 46 chromosomes that code your both your mothers and father genetic info, then the traits that are dominant, will be expressed. These expressed traits determine how your hair, eyes, face, skin color, and anything else about you that's unique comes out.
The thing i forgot to mention was the act of crossing-over, this occurs between chromosomes during meiosis, but that's getting a little too in depth...and that just diversifies variability...
Hereditary information is contained in genes, located in the chromosomes of each cell. Each gene carries a single unit of information. An inherited trait of an individual can be determined by one or many genes, and a single gene can influence more than one trait. A human cell contains many thousands of different genes.
Hope this helps!
Sexual reproduction. Good place to start thinking about.How is hereditary information passed from Parent to offspring?
by means of gamete (in the form of genes which is made of genetic materials i.e. DNA)
every cell in your body, including sperm and eggs have DNA. The DNA has the code that decides what your body looks and acts like. when you are created in your mothers womb your father and mothers dna combine. during that process the DNA changes a little bit. thats why you dont look exactly like your parents, just similar. from there, that new code reproduces and makes you
Gametes...your father gives you 1/2 in the form of the sperm and your mother gives you the other 1/2 in the form of the egg. When fertilization occurs the halves combine which gives you the DNA you have now!
Fusion of the gametes, the haploid cells from both the male and the female parent (gametes) to form a zygote, which will be diploid. The zygote wil be having a set of chromosomes from both the parents . During the process of cell division the chromosomes undergo crossing over and the genes on the chromosomes from both the male and the female parent leads to the exchange of genetic information between the homologous chromosomes and thus leads to the passing on of the hereditary information from the parents to the offspring . Hence the offspring wil be having the characters of both the parents.
Well, your mother produced the egg:
In your moms ovaries a process called meiosis occurred. in meiosis the parent cell, just like any other human body cell, starts out with 46 chromosomes (chromosomes being the things that code your parents genetic info) and through a series of phases, you'll end up with 4 daughter cells each with 23 chromosomes. That's 4 eggs that are carrying your mothers genetic info.
Then your father produced the sperm:
Meiosis also occurs in your fathers testis resulting in 4 sperm cells that are each carrying 23 chromosomes.
Now when your father and your mother ';made you,'; for the lack of a better term, the first sperm that got your you mothers egg fused with the egg making something called a ZYGOTE which will have 46 chromosomes that code your both your mothers and father genetic info, then the traits that are dominant, will be expressed. These expressed traits determine how your hair, eyes, face, skin color, and anything else about you that's unique comes out.
The thing i forgot to mention was the act of crossing-over, this occurs between chromosomes during meiosis, but that's getting a little too in depth...and that just diversifies variability...
Hereditary information is contained in genes, located in the chromosomes of each cell. Each gene carries a single unit of information. An inherited trait of an individual can be determined by one or many genes, and a single gene can influence more than one trait. A human cell contains many thousands of different genes.
Hope this helps!
How to write a letter to parents about a school disco?
How can I write a letter to parents/carers about a disco that is being planned for year 7 and 8's?
What should I include?How to write a letter to parents about a school disco?
Dear Parent / Guardian
I am writing to inform you that there is a disco that is scheduled for year 7 and 8 on the 15th October 2009 we will appreciate it if you could kindly fill in the form below so we can prepare for how many students will be coming, The disco will start after school and will continue until 7.30pm students will have to make their own way home.
Please have the slip in by no later than 12th october 2009
and ask students to give them to their form teacher
PLease meet in the main reception after school
Yours Sincerly
Mr Taylor
Head of year 7 %26amp; 8
(make sure you put the date on ) hope this helps angelaHow to write a letter to parents about a school disco?
Hey cat
We've got a disco planned next week. Be there or be square.
?xxxxxxxprofessional makeup
What should I include?How to write a letter to parents about a school disco?
Dear Parent / Guardian
I am writing to inform you that there is a disco that is scheduled for year 7 and 8 on the 15th October 2009 we will appreciate it if you could kindly fill in the form below so we can prepare for how many students will be coming, The disco will start after school and will continue until 7.30pm students will have to make their own way home.
Please have the slip in by no later than 12th october 2009
and ask students to give them to their form teacher
PLease meet in the main reception after school
Yours Sincerly
Mr Taylor
Head of year 7 %26amp; 8
(make sure you put the date on ) hope this helps angelaHow to write a letter to parents about a school disco?
Hey cat
We've got a disco planned next week. Be there or be square.
?xxxxxxx
How does one honor an abusive parent, to obey the 4th commandment?
What does to honor actually mean, in the Bible? I am looking for some verbs, to describe how to behave when honoring.How does one honor an abusive parent, to obey the 4th commandment?
First of all you must be reading a Catholic Bible, because the Catholics are the ones who changed God's unchanging law. because God's fourth commandment is the seventh day Sabbath and Honoring thy mother and father is the fifth commandment.
You are to honor your parent's to the best of your ability as long it does not go against God's law.
For example; God said to ';remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy, thou shalt not do any work.'; and if your parents wants you to do the laundry and you refuse to do so you are not breaking God's law by refusing to do laundry on the Sabbath. and you are not breaking the fifth commandment because you are honoring God by showing your love toward HImHow does one honor an abusive parent, to obey the 4th commandment?
Ok first off take in mind that most in not all of the christens that are telling you to love and honor your abusive parent probably have never been abused. However your situation proves a very important point about religion in general. If one follows their doctrine to its fullest as it was meant to be followed it will harm them, it goes against human nature. I鈥檓 sure you turn the other cheek whenever your parent abuses you but what good dose that do for you. It doesn鈥檛 make you feel any better and your parent is still under the impression they can do this to you. How does respecting a person who has not earned it help anyone in anyway? It doesn鈥檛 and you have to stand up for yourself or you will grow to hate them both the abusive parent and the one not doing anything about it. Eventually you will move past it but I assure you it will be a lot harder if you let them walk all over you like a door mat. The problem with religion is it tells you to put others before yourself and then contradicts itself and say pull the plank from your own eye before you help someone else. So what do you do, first off think for yourself and drop the whole god things it鈥檚 nothing more than a clever lie to stop you from thinking for yourself. Then stand up for yourself, ether call cps on that parent or beat them to death in their sleep. No one and I mean no one should ever have to go through what you are going through. Home should be a safe place not a place of fear, and whatever you do just learn from it and never do this to your family. If you want any more help please e-mail me and I can help you put a stop to this crap.
Hi Pmow,
deliberate ';editing'; of the Bible by the Emperor Constantine and friends in the 4th to the 6th centuries.
Original text states ';honour thy Mother Goddess and thy Father God';
Constantine, a confirmed misogynist, had all the references to Goddess as well as all five books written by women removed from the Bible: See my latest book for more details.
There's actually more to it than this but this may help you get into the ';right'; direction.
Blessed be
Karma Singh
The fourth commandment is irrelevant to this situation. You were never a party to the old covenant. The requirement for people today is to have love even for an enemy. One can also love an abusive parent, and learn to forgive.
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You empathize , you understand that they see only one logical choice from their perspective and chose the best one as they see it ....askewed or not //.Some hings are habit and honor doesn't mean laying down and letting people walk on you .. You can be proactive. You can listen to what the spirit of the lord is telling you and do ... that ..
You probably know exactly what it means
UHMMM, the 4th commandment is to remember the Sabbath to keep it Holy, so a good way to start would be to actually KNOW the commandment to which you are referring.
To honor them means to never speak or think bad of them. Hold them in your prayers and forgive them as much as it takes for you to be at peace. Obey is the word you're looking for, though.
She or he needs help to cope without abuse. Honour her or him by seeking counselling. Also get some yourself.
The abusive parent deserves no respect. get new parents and leave that home, you deserve a better life
By getting them some help.
It means, ';Do as I say, not as I do';
i kicked his butt.
鈥搗erb (used with object)
13. to hold in honor or high respect; revere: to honor one's parents.
14. to treat with honor.
15. to confer honor or distinction upon: The university honored him with its leadership award.
16. to worship (the Supreme Being).
17. to show a courteous regard for: to honor an invitation.
18. Commerce. to accept or pay (a draft, check, etc.): All credit cards are honored here.
19. to accept as valid and conform to the request or demands of (an official document).
20. (in square dancing) to meet or salute with a bow.
First of all you must be reading a Catholic Bible, because the Catholics are the ones who changed God's unchanging law. because God's fourth commandment is the seventh day Sabbath and Honoring thy mother and father is the fifth commandment.
You are to honor your parent's to the best of your ability as long it does not go against God's law.
For example; God said to ';remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy, thou shalt not do any work.'; and if your parents wants you to do the laundry and you refuse to do so you are not breaking God's law by refusing to do laundry on the Sabbath. and you are not breaking the fifth commandment because you are honoring God by showing your love toward HImHow does one honor an abusive parent, to obey the 4th commandment?
Ok first off take in mind that most in not all of the christens that are telling you to love and honor your abusive parent probably have never been abused. However your situation proves a very important point about religion in general. If one follows their doctrine to its fullest as it was meant to be followed it will harm them, it goes against human nature. I鈥檓 sure you turn the other cheek whenever your parent abuses you but what good dose that do for you. It doesn鈥檛 make you feel any better and your parent is still under the impression they can do this to you. How does respecting a person who has not earned it help anyone in anyway? It doesn鈥檛 and you have to stand up for yourself or you will grow to hate them both the abusive parent and the one not doing anything about it. Eventually you will move past it but I assure you it will be a lot harder if you let them walk all over you like a door mat. The problem with religion is it tells you to put others before yourself and then contradicts itself and say pull the plank from your own eye before you help someone else. So what do you do, first off think for yourself and drop the whole god things it鈥檚 nothing more than a clever lie to stop you from thinking for yourself. Then stand up for yourself, ether call cps on that parent or beat them to death in their sleep. No one and I mean no one should ever have to go through what you are going through. Home should be a safe place not a place of fear, and whatever you do just learn from it and never do this to your family. If you want any more help please e-mail me and I can help you put a stop to this crap.
Hi Pmow,
deliberate ';editing'; of the Bible by the Emperor Constantine and friends in the 4th to the 6th centuries.
Original text states ';honour thy Mother Goddess and thy Father God';
Constantine, a confirmed misogynist, had all the references to Goddess as well as all five books written by women removed from the Bible: See my latest book for more details.
There's actually more to it than this but this may help you get into the ';right'; direction.
Blessed be
Karma Singh
The fourth commandment is irrelevant to this situation. You were never a party to the old covenant. The requirement for people today is to have love even for an enemy. One can also love an abusive parent, and learn to forgive.
.
You empathize , you understand that they see only one logical choice from their perspective and chose the best one as they see it ....askewed or not //.Some hings are habit and honor doesn't mean laying down and letting people walk on you .. You can be proactive. You can listen to what the spirit of the lord is telling you and do ... that ..
You probably know exactly what it means
UHMMM, the 4th commandment is to remember the Sabbath to keep it Holy, so a good way to start would be to actually KNOW the commandment to which you are referring.
To honor them means to never speak or think bad of them. Hold them in your prayers and forgive them as much as it takes for you to be at peace. Obey is the word you're looking for, though.
She or he needs help to cope without abuse. Honour her or him by seeking counselling. Also get some yourself.
The abusive parent deserves no respect. get new parents and leave that home, you deserve a better life
By getting them some help.
It means, ';Do as I say, not as I do';
i kicked his butt.
鈥搗erb (used with object)
13. to hold in honor or high respect; revere: to honor one's parents.
14. to treat with honor.
15. to confer honor or distinction upon: The university honored him with its leadership award.
16. to worship (the Supreme Being).
17. to show a courteous regard for: to honor an invitation.
18. Commerce. to accept or pay (a draft, check, etc.): All credit cards are honored here.
19. to accept as valid and conform to the request or demands of (an official document).
20. (in square dancing) to meet or salute with a bow.
What do you think of the parents who went to prison for denying medical treatment to their child?
I'm sure you've seen the story in the media. Some parents went to prison because instead of seeking medical help for their sick child, they prayed for her, and she died.
I can guess what the atheists will think, so you may wish to refrain from clogging up this post!
As for the religious people out there - do you think these people deserve punishment, and if not, why not? After all, if you beleive in the bible the God sanctions the use of medicine - he allows the use of all the plants for the good of man except the tree of knowledge.What do you think of the parents who went to prison for denying medical treatment to their child?
It's child neglect %26amp; abuse, plain and simple. So yes, they should be punished for it.
A persons individual religious beliefs does not make them exempt from the law.What do you think of the parents who went to prison for denying medical treatment to their child?
If the parents have the power to consent to treatment, they have the power to withhold informed consent to treatment. Restated, if you have the authority to consent to something, you must have authority to deny it. Otherwise, such ';consent'; is merely a formality.
Leaving religion aside, there may be other reasons for refusing a particular treatment or type of care.
The outcome could well be death with a given course of treatment just as well as it could be without any treatment. The odds may be different, and there may be better, more effective courses of treatment.
If parents starve their child because ';God tells them to';, do they deserve to be punished?
How about a parent who stones his disobedient child to death and then claims as his defense that he was merely following God's commandment in the Old Testament to do so?
Same answer.
Any parent who harms their child not only deserves prison, but their children should be placed in foster care for their own safety.
My answer would have been exactly the same when I was a Roman Catholic.
I am sure they were well-intentioned, in the long run. But they were highly negligent in the treatment of their child. I'm torn on how much punishment they deserve, because I don't believe there was any malice, but I don't want to see these kinds of very avoidable deaths continue, either.
I think it's like this -- the parents are free to not get medical attention for themselves and to pray for healing if they wish.
However, even though they have freedom of religion, that does not mean that a child's rights can be overlooked, and the child had the legal right to medical help which could have saved her life and her parents had the DUTY to make sure she got it. They failed.
Get over yourself!
This is mans law we are talking about, and it's mans law we need to adhere to. They deserve to go to prison, and more so if they were educated in the conventional manner.
If you believe in god, then you must also accept that he gave doctors the gift to heal, and if not, what the bloody hell is the point.
We sit idly by watching as an insidious stream of profanity, vulgarity, demeaning behavior, a mocking of righteous ideals and principles, invades our homes and lives through most types of media, teaching our children negative values and moral corruption. We then become upset when our children perform differently than we would wish, and social behavior continues to deteriorate.
Personally, this is another example of the State interfering with parental rights. They didn't intentionally set out to kill her. They thought their faith would save her. Was it wrong? Probably so. However you could go to the hospital, get treated for one thing, but it was misdiagnosed, and you died as a result. Would the doctor then be locked away? No, the best he would get is a malpractice lawsuit. The streets are paved with good intentions. The names have been changed to protect the guilty.
i think anyone who is teaching the power of prayer alone should serve right along with these brainwashed people. Someone had to teach them this stuff for them to even have a chance of believing it.
This just proves that praying does nothing. Sorry i am an atheist couldn't resist lol. Looking forward to hearing religious folk.
Im a Christian and if this child died because they refused medical treatment for her. Then i think they should stay in prison.
I think it's too good for them. Let THEM get sick, and then withhold medical treatment. The punishment should fit the crime.
Behold, the power of religion. The true source of all morality on Earth.. Give me a break.
Those parents got what they had coming plain and simple.
Idiots are the enemies of themselves.
I think they are people who give Christians a bad name. They are very ignorant.
Bravo! Christian Science almost killed me.
Serves the dipshits right.
These people were morons. Why wouldn't you do all that you can to save your child?
They got what they deserved.....the sick child got what it didn't deserve
Bad news. We'll pray for them...
My answer has nothing to do with the fact that I'm Christian.
I don't think putting these people in jail is the answer. I've seen several cases where the parents lost their child because of their failure to seek medical attention and whether they are found guilty of a crime goes about 50/50.
I'm not real sure what to do with them, but their punishment is that they will do without that child they loved for the rest of their lives. I think we can all agree that these parents did not intend to kill their child with their inaction, that they loved their child.
And yes, I do believe in going to the doctor, I take mine when they are sick. God gave us doctors, there's nothing wrong with using them.
These people were idiots.... Longer post coming, just you wait.
edit: Okay, I managed to find a version of the story I was looking for.
A big storm approaches. The weatherman urges everyone to get out of town. The priest says, ';I won't worry, God will save me';.
The morning of the storm, the police go through the neighborhood with a sound truck telling everyone to evacuate. The priest says ';I won't worry, God will save me';.
The storm drains back up and there is an inch of water standing in the street. A fire truck comes by to pick up the priest. He tells them ';Don't worry, God will save me.';
The water rises another foot. A National Guard truck comes by to rescue the priest. He tells them ';Don't worry, God will save me.';
The water rises some more. The priest is forced up to his roof. A boat comes by to rescue the priest. He tells them ';Don't worry, God will save me.';
The water rises higher. The priest is forced up to the very top of his roof. A helicopter comes to rescue the priest. He shouts up at them ';Don't worry, God will save me.';
The water rises above his house, and the priest drowns.
When he gets up to heaven he says to God ';I've been your faithful servant ever since I was born! Why didn't you save me?';
God replies ';First I sent you a fire truck, then the national guard, then a boat, and then a helicopter. What more do you want from me!!??';
Every Christian will have a different opinion on this. There ARE Christian doctors out there, and some will say ';Well, clearly this person has been blessed with knowledge and fortitude to save lives every day.';
Some other Christians may view ANYTHING remotely connected to science as sinful or forbidden.
The reality is, some people just don't have enough common sense to realize that science is like the elephant in the room - you can close your eyes and pretend not to see it, but it's there all the same. If your kid is very sick, please, take them to a doctor ASAP. Even if you don't believe in medicine, do it for their health and safety.
I can guess what the atheists will think, so you may wish to refrain from clogging up this post!
As for the religious people out there - do you think these people deserve punishment, and if not, why not? After all, if you beleive in the bible the God sanctions the use of medicine - he allows the use of all the plants for the good of man except the tree of knowledge.What do you think of the parents who went to prison for denying medical treatment to their child?
It's child neglect %26amp; abuse, plain and simple. So yes, they should be punished for it.
A persons individual religious beliefs does not make them exempt from the law.What do you think of the parents who went to prison for denying medical treatment to their child?
If the parents have the power to consent to treatment, they have the power to withhold informed consent to treatment. Restated, if you have the authority to consent to something, you must have authority to deny it. Otherwise, such ';consent'; is merely a formality.
Leaving religion aside, there may be other reasons for refusing a particular treatment or type of care.
The outcome could well be death with a given course of treatment just as well as it could be without any treatment. The odds may be different, and there may be better, more effective courses of treatment.
If parents starve their child because ';God tells them to';, do they deserve to be punished?
How about a parent who stones his disobedient child to death and then claims as his defense that he was merely following God's commandment in the Old Testament to do so?
Same answer.
Any parent who harms their child not only deserves prison, but their children should be placed in foster care for their own safety.
My answer would have been exactly the same when I was a Roman Catholic.
I am sure they were well-intentioned, in the long run. But they were highly negligent in the treatment of their child. I'm torn on how much punishment they deserve, because I don't believe there was any malice, but I don't want to see these kinds of very avoidable deaths continue, either.
I think it's like this -- the parents are free to not get medical attention for themselves and to pray for healing if they wish.
However, even though they have freedom of religion, that does not mean that a child's rights can be overlooked, and the child had the legal right to medical help which could have saved her life and her parents had the DUTY to make sure she got it. They failed.
Get over yourself!
This is mans law we are talking about, and it's mans law we need to adhere to. They deserve to go to prison, and more so if they were educated in the conventional manner.
If you believe in god, then you must also accept that he gave doctors the gift to heal, and if not, what the bloody hell is the point.
We sit idly by watching as an insidious stream of profanity, vulgarity, demeaning behavior, a mocking of righteous ideals and principles, invades our homes and lives through most types of media, teaching our children negative values and moral corruption. We then become upset when our children perform differently than we would wish, and social behavior continues to deteriorate.
Personally, this is another example of the State interfering with parental rights. They didn't intentionally set out to kill her. They thought their faith would save her. Was it wrong? Probably so. However you could go to the hospital, get treated for one thing, but it was misdiagnosed, and you died as a result. Would the doctor then be locked away? No, the best he would get is a malpractice lawsuit. The streets are paved with good intentions. The names have been changed to protect the guilty.
i think anyone who is teaching the power of prayer alone should serve right along with these brainwashed people. Someone had to teach them this stuff for them to even have a chance of believing it.
This just proves that praying does nothing. Sorry i am an atheist couldn't resist lol. Looking forward to hearing religious folk.
Im a Christian and if this child died because they refused medical treatment for her. Then i think they should stay in prison.
I think it's too good for them. Let THEM get sick, and then withhold medical treatment. The punishment should fit the crime.
Behold, the power of religion. The true source of all morality on Earth.. Give me a break.
Those parents got what they had coming plain and simple.
Idiots are the enemies of themselves.
I think they are people who give Christians a bad name. They are very ignorant.
Bravo! Christian Science almost killed me.
Serves the dipshits right.
These people were morons. Why wouldn't you do all that you can to save your child?
They got what they deserved.....the sick child got what it didn't deserve
Bad news. We'll pray for them...
My answer has nothing to do with the fact that I'm Christian.
I don't think putting these people in jail is the answer. I've seen several cases where the parents lost their child because of their failure to seek medical attention and whether they are found guilty of a crime goes about 50/50.
I'm not real sure what to do with them, but their punishment is that they will do without that child they loved for the rest of their lives. I think we can all agree that these parents did not intend to kill their child with their inaction, that they loved their child.
And yes, I do believe in going to the doctor, I take mine when they are sick. God gave us doctors, there's nothing wrong with using them.
These people were idiots.... Longer post coming, just you wait.
edit: Okay, I managed to find a version of the story I was looking for.
A big storm approaches. The weatherman urges everyone to get out of town. The priest says, ';I won't worry, God will save me';.
The morning of the storm, the police go through the neighborhood with a sound truck telling everyone to evacuate. The priest says ';I won't worry, God will save me';.
The storm drains back up and there is an inch of water standing in the street. A fire truck comes by to pick up the priest. He tells them ';Don't worry, God will save me.';
The water rises another foot. A National Guard truck comes by to rescue the priest. He tells them ';Don't worry, God will save me.';
The water rises some more. The priest is forced up to his roof. A boat comes by to rescue the priest. He tells them ';Don't worry, God will save me.';
The water rises higher. The priest is forced up to the very top of his roof. A helicopter comes to rescue the priest. He shouts up at them ';Don't worry, God will save me.';
The water rises above his house, and the priest drowns.
When he gets up to heaven he says to God ';I've been your faithful servant ever since I was born! Why didn't you save me?';
God replies ';First I sent you a fire truck, then the national guard, then a boat, and then a helicopter. What more do you want from me!!??';
Every Christian will have a different opinion on this. There ARE Christian doctors out there, and some will say ';Well, clearly this person has been blessed with knowledge and fortitude to save lives every day.';
Some other Christians may view ANYTHING remotely connected to science as sinful or forbidden.
The reality is, some people just don't have enough common sense to realize that science is like the elephant in the room - you can close your eyes and pretend not to see it, but it's there all the same. If your kid is very sick, please, take them to a doctor ASAP. Even if you don't believe in medicine, do it for their health and safety.
Can a custodial parent make the noncustodial parent pay child support if the child is adopted by a stepparent?
Also, is it legal for the stepparent to adopt without the noncustodial parent signing the adoption papers?Can a custodial parent make the noncustodial parent pay child support if the child is adopted by a stepparent?
Once adopted, the non-custodial parent is relieved of support payments. But is not relieved of past due payments owed. Quite often these arrears child support payments are a bargaining chip to get the non-cust parent to relinquish his/her parental rights.
The non-cust parent must relinquish parental rights or be relieved of those rights by the court before the child can be adopted.Can a custodial parent make the noncustodial parent pay child support if the child is adopted by a stepparent?
Adoption by a step-parent does not modify the custody and support agreement. The non-custodial parent must continue paying child support as ordered by the court until it is modified. However, the child being adopted by a step-parent would be a good reason to request the court to modify the agreement.
Whether or not the noncustodial parent's permission is required for adoption depends on the exact custody agreement. If complete legal and physical custody was awarded to the mother, the father's agreement is completely not needed. If the father retained some right as to how the child was being raised and a modicum of legal custody, then permission may be required. It would depend on the exact nature of the custody agreement.
For the step parent to adopt, the bio parent must sign his/her rights away, or the courts terminate his/her rights if the bio parent cannot be found.. And once the adoption is over, it legally is the same as if the step parent is the bio parent, so the bio parent would no longer have to pay future support payments (arrears are still on record since this was owed before the adoption).
Basically your question is can i strip my ex of rights and make him pay me as i do it??
Answer: What a *****!
Anyway,
First, a step-parent CAN NOT adopt a child without
non-custodial consent.
Secondly, Once the adoption has taken place (if the non-custodial parent signs) will VOID all future child support payments. Why pay if you can't see the child? Custodial parents can not always have their cake and eat it to.
EDIT: We just went through this with my husbands ex. He became so tired of her bullshit and of her putting their child through the mud, he signed over his rights so his son would not be harassed by his mother about what he does here and so forth. So I know first hand, you MUST have the other parents consent AND they DONT have to pay support after adoption! Nor, do they have to petition the court for child support to end,once there is an adoption the non-custodial parent is no longer the parent so no longer obligated to give to the blood sucking mother!
It is not a legal adoption unless the non custodial parent releases his parental rights. Once he does, he is not obligated to pay child support. A parent can not make another parent do anything. The courts do that.
No to both questions
If the Step Parent has legally adopted the child then the order granting the SP adoption rights would terminate child support.
And no the SP cannot adopt without the NCP permission.
The biological parent normally has to give up his or her rights unless they were previously terminated by a judge, i.e. a case of abuse/neglect etc.
Sound like you need a lawyer.
Once adopted, the non-custodial parent is relieved of support payments. But is not relieved of past due payments owed. Quite often these arrears child support payments are a bargaining chip to get the non-cust parent to relinquish his/her parental rights.
The non-cust parent must relinquish parental rights or be relieved of those rights by the court before the child can be adopted.Can a custodial parent make the noncustodial parent pay child support if the child is adopted by a stepparent?
Adoption by a step-parent does not modify the custody and support agreement. The non-custodial parent must continue paying child support as ordered by the court until it is modified. However, the child being adopted by a step-parent would be a good reason to request the court to modify the agreement.
Whether or not the noncustodial parent's permission is required for adoption depends on the exact custody agreement. If complete legal and physical custody was awarded to the mother, the father's agreement is completely not needed. If the father retained some right as to how the child was being raised and a modicum of legal custody, then permission may be required. It would depend on the exact nature of the custody agreement.
For the step parent to adopt, the bio parent must sign his/her rights away, or the courts terminate his/her rights if the bio parent cannot be found.. And once the adoption is over, it legally is the same as if the step parent is the bio parent, so the bio parent would no longer have to pay future support payments (arrears are still on record since this was owed before the adoption).
Basically your question is can i strip my ex of rights and make him pay me as i do it??
Answer: What a *****!
Anyway,
First, a step-parent CAN NOT adopt a child without
non-custodial consent.
Secondly, Once the adoption has taken place (if the non-custodial parent signs) will VOID all future child support payments. Why pay if you can't see the child? Custodial parents can not always have their cake and eat it to.
EDIT: We just went through this with my husbands ex. He became so tired of her bullshit and of her putting their child through the mud, he signed over his rights so his son would not be harassed by his mother about what he does here and so forth. So I know first hand, you MUST have the other parents consent AND they DONT have to pay support after adoption! Nor, do they have to petition the court for child support to end,once there is an adoption the non-custodial parent is no longer the parent so no longer obligated to give to the blood sucking mother!
It is not a legal adoption unless the non custodial parent releases his parental rights. Once he does, he is not obligated to pay child support. A parent can not make another parent do anything. The courts do that.
No to both questions
If the Step Parent has legally adopted the child then the order granting the SP adoption rights would terminate child support.
And no the SP cannot adopt without the NCP permission.
The biological parent normally has to give up his or her rights unless they were previously terminated by a judge, i.e. a case of abuse/neglect etc.
Sound like you need a lawyer.
What can I cook for my parents wedding anniversary?
I want a meal idea which isn't too expensive or hard to cook. I need to be able to cook it in the afternoon and then like heat it up in the evening also could do with an accompanying starter and dessert. Any ideas?What can I cook for my parents wedding anniversary?
Starter: I would go for a garlic bread. You can buy them pre-made and frozen and then you just have to pop it in the oven.
Meal: Some sort of pasta with white sauce. Fettucini Alfredo maybe.
Dessert: Tiramisu-you can also buy these pre-made. Or you can bake them a cake and write Happy Anniversary on it. Or maybe a cheesecake-you can also buy these pre made.
Then get them a nice bottle of red wine to go with at fabulous Italian dinner. If you're not old enough to buy the wine then buy some sparkling cider :). If you need any more ideas just let me know :).What can I cook for my parents wedding anniversary?
make a simple salad of prepared mixed greens, cherry tomatoes, and maybe open a can of artichoke hearts. Assemble and then dress w/ their favorite dressing table side. For the main course serve a pasta dish. Prepare the pasta ahead of time and put in the fridge. Buy prepared pesto in the refrigerated part of your grocery store, also buy some parm cheese and sundried tomatoes. When ready to serve heat up pasta, stir in pesto and sundried tomatoes and heat up to get chill off pesto. Plate it and sprinkle cheese on top and serve. For dessert make texas sheet cake. It has to sit after-awhile after its prepared so the frosting can set up. Its delicious. Enjoy
Texas sheet cake
1 cup butter
1 cup water
4 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder
2 cups all-purpose flour
2 cups white sugar
1/2 teaspoon salt
2 eggs
1/2 cup sour cream
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 cup butter
4 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder
5 tablespoons milk
4 cups confectioners' sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 cup chopped walnuts
1.Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C). Grease a 15x10 inch jelly roll pan.
2.Bring 1 cup butter, water and 4 tablespoons cocoa to a boil in a large saucepan. While still hot, remove from heat and add 2 cups flour, 2 cups white sugar, and salt. Mix well. Beat in eggs, sour cream, and baking soda. Do not beat too long.
3.Pour batter into greased 15x10 inch jelly roll pan. Bake at 375 degrees F (190 degrees C) for 20 to 25 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted into center of cake comes out clean.
4.To Make Icing: Bring 1/2 cup butter or margarine, 4 tablespoons cocoa and 5 tablespoons milk to a boil. Remove from heat. While still hot, add confectioners' sugar vanilla and nuts. Beat well. Ice cake while icing is still hot.
pasta with a really nice sauce, followed by pavlova which you can prepare earlier and leave in the fridge. you could make a starter of melon and parma ham which is a little bit pricey but yummy and no cooking. :)
do they have a favorite? you could cook some steaks or burgers with potatoes and a simple dessert like ice cream or a cake? its hard to give advice if your not giving a price limit.
What are their favorite foods? It's a little hard to advise you on what to cook when I don't know what they like to eat or what they're allergic to etc...
Appetizer- Chicken wings
Meal- Steaks, string beans, mac n cheese, rolls
Dessert- Sundaes
bread. everyone likes bread.
Lasagna with easy mixed salad with italian dressing for desert fruit pies
Hard to anwer,
Starter: I would go for a garlic bread. You can buy them pre-made and frozen and then you just have to pop it in the oven.
Meal: Some sort of pasta with white sauce. Fettucini Alfredo maybe.
Dessert: Tiramisu-you can also buy these pre-made. Or you can bake them a cake and write Happy Anniversary on it. Or maybe a cheesecake-you can also buy these pre made.
Then get them a nice bottle of red wine to go with at fabulous Italian dinner. If you're not old enough to buy the wine then buy some sparkling cider :). If you need any more ideas just let me know :).What can I cook for my parents wedding anniversary?
make a simple salad of prepared mixed greens, cherry tomatoes, and maybe open a can of artichoke hearts. Assemble and then dress w/ their favorite dressing table side. For the main course serve a pasta dish. Prepare the pasta ahead of time and put in the fridge. Buy prepared pesto in the refrigerated part of your grocery store, also buy some parm cheese and sundried tomatoes. When ready to serve heat up pasta, stir in pesto and sundried tomatoes and heat up to get chill off pesto. Plate it and sprinkle cheese on top and serve. For dessert make texas sheet cake. It has to sit after-awhile after its prepared so the frosting can set up. Its delicious. Enjoy
Texas sheet cake
1 cup butter
1 cup water
4 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder
2 cups all-purpose flour
2 cups white sugar
1/2 teaspoon salt
2 eggs
1/2 cup sour cream
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 cup butter
4 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder
5 tablespoons milk
4 cups confectioners' sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 cup chopped walnuts
1.Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C). Grease a 15x10 inch jelly roll pan.
2.Bring 1 cup butter, water and 4 tablespoons cocoa to a boil in a large saucepan. While still hot, remove from heat and add 2 cups flour, 2 cups white sugar, and salt. Mix well. Beat in eggs, sour cream, and baking soda. Do not beat too long.
3.Pour batter into greased 15x10 inch jelly roll pan. Bake at 375 degrees F (190 degrees C) for 20 to 25 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted into center of cake comes out clean.
4.To Make Icing: Bring 1/2 cup butter or margarine, 4 tablespoons cocoa and 5 tablespoons milk to a boil. Remove from heat. While still hot, add confectioners' sugar vanilla and nuts. Beat well. Ice cake while icing is still hot.
pasta with a really nice sauce, followed by pavlova which you can prepare earlier and leave in the fridge. you could make a starter of melon and parma ham which is a little bit pricey but yummy and no cooking. :)
do they have a favorite? you could cook some steaks or burgers with potatoes and a simple dessert like ice cream or a cake? its hard to give advice if your not giving a price limit.
What are their favorite foods? It's a little hard to advise you on what to cook when I don't know what they like to eat or what they're allergic to etc...
Appetizer- Chicken wings
Meal- Steaks, string beans, mac n cheese, rolls
Dessert- Sundaes
bread. everyone likes bread.
Lasagna with easy mixed salad with italian dressing for desert fruit pies
Hard to anwer,
What happens to children when both parents are sent to prison?
A couple I know have 4 children, aged 15,13, 2 and 11 months. It looks highly likely that both parents are going to be sent to prison.
What will happen to their 4 children?What happens to children when both parents are sent to prison?
They will become wards of the state. If they have no family members who will be willing to take the children, they will go into the foster care system. Before mom and dad go, they could make arrangements for them to have a legal guardian to take care of them. Otherwise the above. What happens to children when both parents are sent to prison?
If there is no family to take them in or no friends to give guardianship to...they are likely to go into foster care. Tell your friends to make arrangements for them...whose care the children go to, the parents should make sure to sign releases giving education and medical decision rights.
It is up to the parents to take action and find the children a home before they are sentenced.
The children will not be wards of the state because they are not juvenile criminals...they will be dependents of the state if the parents do not make arrangements for them. Also, if they do become dependents, there is no guarantee they will be placed in the same home (if fact it is likely they will not). Like I said before, the parents must make arrangements for their care before going to prison.
they usually go to the next of kin or god parents if not they will be placed in child services and placed in foster care they most likely will be placed where they can keep all the children together or placed upon in individual foster homes until there parents are released from prison if it a case of child abuse it is most likely the parents will never regain custody and the children and will remain in foster care until they are adopted or come of age
More than likely Child Protective Services or DHS (in my home state), will become involved, if this hasn't happened already. The parents should really look into having legal custody granted to someone (preferably family unless a family friend is willing) before CPS or DHS has to be involved. Hopefully, when the parents get out, they will do what is necessary to maintain a healthy home environment. Please know I am NOT judging them because I know people make mistakes and CAN turn their lives around. CPS doesn't always place a child with family automatically, I believe there are foster parenting classes that have to be completed even by the family. I hope they make prior arrangements before their sentencing.
the youngest will be fostered out, providing the parents do ok and come ot in a good time that will be it, although repeat offenders are likely to lose children this young to adoption.
the older two are not so easy to foster so will end up in a childrens home more thatn likely and unfortunately it will be unpleasent. they will probably learn more crime and get into more trouble there than if they lived on their own.
if they are nice kids they may try to foster them out, some people do take in teens, but they ae harder to place due to the emotional problems many of them have.
you could always have them, socialservices would rather place them with a person wh knows them and can handle them. its worth considering.
If the couple can't make arrangements within their own families then they'll be put into foster care until the parents come out. It's extremely rare for a court to send mothers to jail so unless the crime was really severe I'd doubt that it would happen. I don't know what the cut off age is for babies in the prison system. She might end up with a tag instead.
Hi,
Very likely that social services will get involved. They may assess to see if any other family members - grandparents, aunties and uncles ect are capable of bringing up the children.
If not they will be placed into care of social services - foster homes but I not sure if they will be able to accomodate keeping all the children together. I hope they do though!
Lx
Close relatives such as grandparents, uncles and aunts will be given the option of caring for them with their parents consent, in some cases close friends may be given that option. Of course a lot depends on the nature of the crimes committed. If no close temporary guardian is found then they will be taken into care for the duration of the sentences.
they will be placed by a social worker, hopefully they will get to stay with a close relative. the parents should speak to their lawyers about what will happen and hopefully have a family member step forward and offer to take the children.
Well I think the children will be sent to the closest relative or relatives until the final decision has been made about the adults, and yes the children would be going to the relative or relatives if the adults go to prison.
unless they have responsible family members to care for them unfortunatley they will have to go into care.unless the judge feels the children would suffer too much without their parents he may be more lenient to the mother of the children.
Usually they will look at both grandparents.Then other family members,depending what state you are in.If no family member is unwilling or unable to take them ,they become ward of the state.
If there is a family member that is willing to take them in, they will probably be placed with that family member. They will probably become a 'ward of the state' and then the state gets to decide what's best for them.
Either a family member will look after them or they will probably be taken into care. The parents should have thought about your question before they did whatever they did.
I think usually a relative or other family member will take them, if not, they will be taken into foster care.
the parents need to speak to their attorney.
Social services will assess if they can be placed with Grandparents, if not they will go into care.
I think they might send out social services out to get them and then they split all the children up or they might call a close family member to come and get them.
Rachel :)
IF THEY DO NOT HAVE ANY FAMILY, GODPARENTS OR FRIENDS TO TAKE THEM IN THEN THEY WILL PROBABLY BE SENT TO A FOSTER HOME OR SOMETHING OF THAT SORT.
More than likely, if they do not have suitable family to go to, then they will be sent into foster care.
If there are relatives that will take them, they can go there, otherwise social services finds them foster homes
Go into Care unless they have other family that they might be allowed to stay with them untill both parents are let out depending on what they have done.
poor chilrdren!
They will be sent to their closest family or if they have no family they will be sent to foster care.
they will go to closest know relative. ever seen ';Raising Helen'; it will go a little something like how that movie goes. or they will have to be sent to a foster family..
they either will get sent to their relatives that have a stable homes are they might end up in foster care. It may depends on the crime they were charge for.
they will be killed and butchered, then sent to the prison as food for the prisoners.
Well, if they have any relatives that can take them in like an uncle or grandfather It would be offered to them first. Otherwise i believe that they get sent to a Foster home.
It depends on the families situation. They could go to a foster home or a family member.
They will most likely be split up and put into foster homes.
They are usually taken into care.
probably placed with family, if not then social services for fostering.
If there is no one else to look after them they will go into care and not nessecarily all together they can be split up
What will happen to their 4 children?What happens to children when both parents are sent to prison?
They will become wards of the state. If they have no family members who will be willing to take the children, they will go into the foster care system. Before mom and dad go, they could make arrangements for them to have a legal guardian to take care of them. Otherwise the above. What happens to children when both parents are sent to prison?
If there is no family to take them in or no friends to give guardianship to...they are likely to go into foster care. Tell your friends to make arrangements for them...whose care the children go to, the parents should make sure to sign releases giving education and medical decision rights.
It is up to the parents to take action and find the children a home before they are sentenced.
The children will not be wards of the state because they are not juvenile criminals...they will be dependents of the state if the parents do not make arrangements for them. Also, if they do become dependents, there is no guarantee they will be placed in the same home (if fact it is likely they will not). Like I said before, the parents must make arrangements for their care before going to prison.
they usually go to the next of kin or god parents if not they will be placed in child services and placed in foster care they most likely will be placed where they can keep all the children together or placed upon in individual foster homes until there parents are released from prison if it a case of child abuse it is most likely the parents will never regain custody and the children and will remain in foster care until they are adopted or come of age
More than likely Child Protective Services or DHS (in my home state), will become involved, if this hasn't happened already. The parents should really look into having legal custody granted to someone (preferably family unless a family friend is willing) before CPS or DHS has to be involved. Hopefully, when the parents get out, they will do what is necessary to maintain a healthy home environment. Please know I am NOT judging them because I know people make mistakes and CAN turn their lives around. CPS doesn't always place a child with family automatically, I believe there are foster parenting classes that have to be completed even by the family. I hope they make prior arrangements before their sentencing.
the youngest will be fostered out, providing the parents do ok and come ot in a good time that will be it, although repeat offenders are likely to lose children this young to adoption.
the older two are not so easy to foster so will end up in a childrens home more thatn likely and unfortunately it will be unpleasent. they will probably learn more crime and get into more trouble there than if they lived on their own.
if they are nice kids they may try to foster them out, some people do take in teens, but they ae harder to place due to the emotional problems many of them have.
you could always have them, socialservices would rather place them with a person wh knows them and can handle them. its worth considering.
If the couple can't make arrangements within their own families then they'll be put into foster care until the parents come out. It's extremely rare for a court to send mothers to jail so unless the crime was really severe I'd doubt that it would happen. I don't know what the cut off age is for babies in the prison system. She might end up with a tag instead.
Hi,
Very likely that social services will get involved. They may assess to see if any other family members - grandparents, aunties and uncles ect are capable of bringing up the children.
If not they will be placed into care of social services - foster homes but I not sure if they will be able to accomodate keeping all the children together. I hope they do though!
Lx
Close relatives such as grandparents, uncles and aunts will be given the option of caring for them with their parents consent, in some cases close friends may be given that option. Of course a lot depends on the nature of the crimes committed. If no close temporary guardian is found then they will be taken into care for the duration of the sentences.
they will be placed by a social worker, hopefully they will get to stay with a close relative. the parents should speak to their lawyers about what will happen and hopefully have a family member step forward and offer to take the children.
Well I think the children will be sent to the closest relative or relatives until the final decision has been made about the adults, and yes the children would be going to the relative or relatives if the adults go to prison.
unless they have responsible family members to care for them unfortunatley they will have to go into care.unless the judge feels the children would suffer too much without their parents he may be more lenient to the mother of the children.
Usually they will look at both grandparents.Then other family members,depending what state you are in.If no family member is unwilling or unable to take them ,they become ward of the state.
If there is a family member that is willing to take them in, they will probably be placed with that family member. They will probably become a 'ward of the state' and then the state gets to decide what's best for them.
Either a family member will look after them or they will probably be taken into care. The parents should have thought about your question before they did whatever they did.
I think usually a relative or other family member will take them, if not, they will be taken into foster care.
the parents need to speak to their attorney.
Social services will assess if they can be placed with Grandparents, if not they will go into care.
I think they might send out social services out to get them and then they split all the children up or they might call a close family member to come and get them.
Rachel :)
IF THEY DO NOT HAVE ANY FAMILY, GODPARENTS OR FRIENDS TO TAKE THEM IN THEN THEY WILL PROBABLY BE SENT TO A FOSTER HOME OR SOMETHING OF THAT SORT.
More than likely, if they do not have suitable family to go to, then they will be sent into foster care.
If there are relatives that will take them, they can go there, otherwise social services finds them foster homes
Go into Care unless they have other family that they might be allowed to stay with them untill both parents are let out depending on what they have done.
poor chilrdren!
They will be sent to their closest family or if they have no family they will be sent to foster care.
they will go to closest know relative. ever seen ';Raising Helen'; it will go a little something like how that movie goes. or they will have to be sent to a foster family..
they either will get sent to their relatives that have a stable homes are they might end up in foster care. It may depends on the crime they were charge for.
they will be killed and butchered, then sent to the prison as food for the prisoners.
Well, if they have any relatives that can take them in like an uncle or grandfather It would be offered to them first. Otherwise i believe that they get sent to a Foster home.
It depends on the families situation. They could go to a foster home or a family member.
They will most likely be split up and put into foster homes.
They are usually taken into care.
probably placed with family, if not then social services for fostering.
If there is no one else to look after them they will go into care and not nessecarily all together they can be split up
What newer names do you think parents should stop naming their children?
What newer names do you really hate? Boy and Girl Names.What newer names do you think parents should stop naming their children?
The only names i don't like are:
adyn names too! LOL
but i don't think you should have posted this! Alot of people might have their feelings hurt. I know I actually LOVE alot of those names that you guys hate such as:
Morgan (my little sister)
and Sam is my favorite name!! (no, it is not my name, but i still love it)and alot moreWhat newer names do you think parents should stop naming their children?
Rhett, Gage, any boys names for girls like Riley, Cody, Avery and any names with really stupid spellings like Rian, Kameryn, Jaysen
edit: I totally agree with kissme. I used to be able to say my name is Jennifer and no questions we asked. Now I have to spell it for people because they try and spell it Jenifer, Jenniffer, Jeniffer, Jennyfer, Ginnyffer or something else totally outragoues!
Nevaeh is HORRIFIC. And so many people are like it's heaven spelled backwards! Its still horrible. I hate that name. They -aden names are getting old but they are still cute. The problem is that when a grown man is named Caden it's not cute, its just odd. But I must say Nevaeh wins for me on the most disgusting name ever. I also dislike names that are spelled wrong so that they are different. I.E. Alexis spelled Aleksis. Or throwing ';y';s where ';i';s should be or ';k';s where ';c';s belong or ';z';s in general. I especially hate when people spell Michael, Mikel. WTF? It seems like the younger you are when you have a child the more f'd up the name will be. People think that their child will enjoy being ';different'; but nobody enjoys their name being misspelled every single day. My name is Lindsey (which is normal) but people CONSTANTLY spell my name Lindsay or Lyndsey or (get this) Lyndzie? It's annoying and I vow to never spell my child's name in a way that it will be commonly misspelled.
All those -ayden names.
Madison
Addison
Nevaeh
Olivia
Adrienne
Arianna
Maddox
Kendall/Kyndell
Brielle
Briella
Brianna
Brianne
Any of those nicknames, and JUST nicknames like JUST Alex or JUST Sam, I'm SO sick of that!
I know theres WAY more, but thats just some.
No offense to anyone with that name.
i can deal with hayden but jayden and aidan have got to go. also i really used to like kadin (it's my cousins name) but my cousin's ten so it was a while ago, it has gotten wayyyy to annoying now. and popular.
neveah is BAD.
tatum for a girl is disgusting. along with raegan.
also, i don't like most filler middle names.
Nevaeh.
Honestly, what the heck? It's just horrible on SO many levels.
ALL the -aden names need to stop. NOW. I dread to think how many -adens will be in each classroom in a few years time.
And people need to stop giving girls masculine names. It's horrid!
Girls:
Morgan
Danielle
Brooke
Nicole
Ella
Megan
Amy
Molly
Holly
Caitlin
Maddison
Leah
Georgia
Lauren
Amber
Bethany
Raegan
Paige
Paignton
Alesha
Tia
Maya
Courtney
Lacey
Shannon
Lexie
Kayleigh
Alicia
Boys:
Ethan
Jake
Callum
Ryan
Liam
Tyler
Jayden
Cameron
Connor
Isacc
Nathan
Owen
Kyle
Logan
Mason
Rhys
Riley
Kai
Freddie
Hayden
Brandan
Kian
Bailey
Ashton
Ellis
Corey
Jay
Sean
Keegan
Brylee, Riley for a girl Rileigh whatever and Jayden and ALL the ayden names. They are so ugly and sound bad for when they grow up and have to be professional adults.
All the -ayden names. They're SO overdone. And stupid things like Renesmee. It's not a name people!
EDIT: Oh, and I so agree with Alice. Nevaeh is HORRIBLE, as are boy's names on girls.
Tucker %26amp; Tate.
Tucker rhymes with something profane and those poor child WILL be made fun off.
And Tate sounds like taint, which is gross.
And the aydens...
Nevaeh, Rhys, Bella %26amp; Edward, all the -ayden names
All of the ayden names!
Nevaeh. that is just junk that someone made up. I hear it all the time now and its dumb
Sasha its not my fav......sorry to all the sashas out thereprofessional makeup
The only names i don't like are:
adyn names too! LOL
but i don't think you should have posted this! Alot of people might have their feelings hurt. I know I actually LOVE alot of those names that you guys hate such as:
Morgan (my little sister)
and Sam is my favorite name!! (no, it is not my name, but i still love it)and alot moreWhat newer names do you think parents should stop naming their children?
Rhett, Gage, any boys names for girls like Riley, Cody, Avery and any names with really stupid spellings like Rian, Kameryn, Jaysen
edit: I totally agree with kissme. I used to be able to say my name is Jennifer and no questions we asked. Now I have to spell it for people because they try and spell it Jenifer, Jenniffer, Jeniffer, Jennyfer, Ginnyffer or something else totally outragoues!
Nevaeh is HORRIFIC. And so many people are like it's heaven spelled backwards! Its still horrible. I hate that name. They -aden names are getting old but they are still cute. The problem is that when a grown man is named Caden it's not cute, its just odd. But I must say Nevaeh wins for me on the most disgusting name ever. I also dislike names that are spelled wrong so that they are different. I.E. Alexis spelled Aleksis. Or throwing ';y';s where ';i';s should be or ';k';s where ';c';s belong or ';z';s in general. I especially hate when people spell Michael, Mikel. WTF? It seems like the younger you are when you have a child the more f'd up the name will be. People think that their child will enjoy being ';different'; but nobody enjoys their name being misspelled every single day. My name is Lindsey (which is normal) but people CONSTANTLY spell my name Lindsay or Lyndsey or (get this) Lyndzie? It's annoying and I vow to never spell my child's name in a way that it will be commonly misspelled.
All those -ayden names.
Madison
Addison
Nevaeh
Olivia
Adrienne
Arianna
Maddox
Kendall/Kyndell
Brielle
Briella
Brianna
Brianne
Any of those nicknames, and JUST nicknames like JUST Alex or JUST Sam, I'm SO sick of that!
I know theres WAY more, but thats just some.
No offense to anyone with that name.
i can deal with hayden but jayden and aidan have got to go. also i really used to like kadin (it's my cousins name) but my cousin's ten so it was a while ago, it has gotten wayyyy to annoying now. and popular.
neveah is BAD.
tatum for a girl is disgusting. along with raegan.
also, i don't like most filler middle names.
Nevaeh.
Honestly, what the heck? It's just horrible on SO many levels.
ALL the -aden names need to stop. NOW. I dread to think how many -adens will be in each classroom in a few years time.
And people need to stop giving girls masculine names. It's horrid!
Girls:
Morgan
Danielle
Brooke
Nicole
Ella
Megan
Amy
Molly
Holly
Caitlin
Maddison
Leah
Georgia
Lauren
Amber
Bethany
Raegan
Paige
Paignton
Alesha
Tia
Maya
Courtney
Lacey
Shannon
Lexie
Kayleigh
Alicia
Boys:
Ethan
Jake
Callum
Ryan
Liam
Tyler
Jayden
Cameron
Connor
Isacc
Nathan
Owen
Kyle
Logan
Mason
Rhys
Riley
Kai
Freddie
Hayden
Brandan
Kian
Bailey
Ashton
Ellis
Corey
Jay
Sean
Keegan
Brylee, Riley for a girl Rileigh whatever and Jayden and ALL the ayden names. They are so ugly and sound bad for when they grow up and have to be professional adults.
All the -ayden names. They're SO overdone. And stupid things like Renesmee. It's not a name people!
EDIT: Oh, and I so agree with Alice. Nevaeh is HORRIBLE, as are boy's names on girls.
Tucker %26amp; Tate.
Tucker rhymes with something profane and those poor child WILL be made fun off.
And Tate sounds like taint, which is gross.
And the aydens...
Nevaeh, Rhys, Bella %26amp; Edward, all the -ayden names
All of the ayden names!
Nevaeh. that is just junk that someone made up. I hear it all the time now and its dumb
Sasha its not my fav......sorry to all the sashas out there
How should my friend convince her parents to let her have a facebook?
My friend really wants a facebook, but her parents won't let her. They think she won't be safe or something. They won't even let her use this website, which is why i had to for her.How should my friend convince her parents to let her have a facebook?
Some people, especially parents, can never be convinced that social networking sites are safe, no matter what you show them. However, maybe if you're lucky you can show them how Facebook works, how it protects almost all of your profile information from anyone who you haven't allowed to see it, and how you're only allowed to friend people who you know in real life, and maybe they will be convinced.How should my friend convince her parents to let her have a facebook?
Don't tell them(?) Or say it will be private to everyone but the people she adds. Also tell them that with the recent settings of facebook, you can make it to the point where people can't even add you or see your photos. Make it in front of her parents, even tell them the password (of course change it later) . Does she not even own her own computer? Have you ever heard of lying?
just make it without telling them.
or you could make everything on the facebook private, show her parents how facebook can be adapted so that only a person's accepted friends can view her profile/photos
tell them that its super save and there are no viruses or anything.
Some people, especially parents, can never be convinced that social networking sites are safe, no matter what you show them. However, maybe if you're lucky you can show them how Facebook works, how it protects almost all of your profile information from anyone who you haven't allowed to see it, and how you're only allowed to friend people who you know in real life, and maybe they will be convinced.How should my friend convince her parents to let her have a facebook?
Don't tell them(?) Or say it will be private to everyone but the people she adds. Also tell them that with the recent settings of facebook, you can make it to the point where people can't even add you or see your photos. Make it in front of her parents, even tell them the password (of course change it later) . Does she not even own her own computer? Have you ever heard of lying?
just make it without telling them.
or you could make everything on the facebook private, show her parents how facebook can be adapted so that only a person's accepted friends can view her profile/photos
tell them that its super save and there are no viruses or anything.
What happens if the non custodial parent does not come to court?
What does the law say in texas if the ncp does not come to the second meeting when trying to get child support?What happens if the non custodial parent does not come to court?
It says in Texas what it says everywhere else - miss a court date and the court will assume the matter was not important enough to you to defend so the order will be made without your side of the story accordingly and you will have to move heaven and earth to vary it ... UNLESS you have a really good excuse that is provided to the court ASAP by a skilled, tactful atty the judge has no bad history with.What happens if the non custodial parent does not come to court?
There are meetings in which neither parent has to necessarily show up as long as their lawyer is there as a representative. But if it were the actual proceeding for custody, she could lose by default, giving you the children.
It says in Texas what it says everywhere else - miss a court date and the court will assume the matter was not important enough to you to defend so the order will be made without your side of the story accordingly and you will have to move heaven and earth to vary it ... UNLESS you have a really good excuse that is provided to the court ASAP by a skilled, tactful atty the judge has no bad history with.What happens if the non custodial parent does not come to court?
There are meetings in which neither parent has to necessarily show up as long as their lawyer is there as a representative. But if it were the actual proceeding for custody, she could lose by default, giving you the children.
What's proper etiquette for the parents of the groom regarding paying for hotel rooms?
A lot of our family members will be coming in from other states for our son's wedding in New Jersey. Does today's etiquette regarding weddings say that we should pay the hotel bill for our family members?What's proper etiquette for the parents of the groom regarding paying for hotel rooms?
No!
Wedding guests pay for their own travel expenses and accomodations.
If you are supremely wealthy and your relatives are struggling financially, it would be a nice gesture, but it's not required by any rules of etiquette I've ever heard.What's proper etiquette for the parents of the groom regarding paying for hotel rooms?
I don't know what's proper, but in my opinion, groom/groom's family pays for groom's guests' rooms, and bride/bride's family pays for bride's guests' rooms. That seems the most equitable and nobody can really complain about it being unfair.
yes, that's all right. Wedding guests gesture, but it's not required by any rules of etiquette I've ever heard.
http://www.vzvz.info/2009/04/new-sneaks-for-spring-at-the-hotel-on-rivington/
No. You can broker a special rate since so many people are coming, but they pay for themselves.
they should pay up or go home!!!!
No!
Wedding guests pay for their own travel expenses and accomodations.
If you are supremely wealthy and your relatives are struggling financially, it would be a nice gesture, but it's not required by any rules of etiquette I've ever heard.What's proper etiquette for the parents of the groom regarding paying for hotel rooms?
I don't know what's proper, but in my opinion, groom/groom's family pays for groom's guests' rooms, and bride/bride's family pays for bride's guests' rooms. That seems the most equitable and nobody can really complain about it being unfair.
yes, that's all right. Wedding guests gesture, but it's not required by any rules of etiquette I've ever heard.
http://www.vzvz.info/2009/04/new-sneaks-for-spring-at-the-hotel-on-rivington/
No. You can broker a special rate since so many people are coming, but they pay for themselves.
they should pay up or go home!!!!
What newer names do you think parents should stop naming their children?
What newer names do you really hate? Boy and Girl Names.What newer names do you think parents should stop naming their children?
The only names i don't like are:
adyn names too! LOL
but i don't think you should have posted this! Alot of people might have their feelings hurt. I know I actually LOVE alot of those names that you guys hate such as:
Morgan (my little sister)
and Sam is my favorite name!! (no, it is not my name, but i still love it)and alot moreWhat newer names do you think parents should stop naming their children?
Rhett, Gage, any boys names for girls like Riley, Cody, Avery and any names with really stupid spellings like Rian, Kameryn, Jaysen
edit: I totally agree with kissme. I used to be able to say my name is Jennifer and no questions we asked. Now I have to spell it for people because they try and spell it Jenifer, Jenniffer, Jeniffer, Jennyfer, Ginnyffer or something else totally outragoues!
Nevaeh is HORRIFIC. And so many people are like it's heaven spelled backwards! Its still horrible. I hate that name. They -aden names are getting old but they are still cute. The problem is that when a grown man is named Caden it's not cute, its just odd. But I must say Nevaeh wins for me on the most disgusting name ever. I also dislike names that are spelled wrong so that they are different. I.E. Alexis spelled Aleksis. Or throwing ';y';s where ';i';s should be or ';k';s where ';c';s belong or ';z';s in general. I especially hate when people spell Michael, Mikel. WTF? It seems like the younger you are when you have a child the more f'd up the name will be. People think that their child will enjoy being ';different'; but nobody enjoys their name being misspelled every single day. My name is Lindsey (which is normal) but people CONSTANTLY spell my name Lindsay or Lyndsey or (get this) Lyndzie? It's annoying and I vow to never spell my child's name in a way that it will be commonly misspelled.
All those -ayden names.
Madison
Addison
Nevaeh
Olivia
Adrienne
Arianna
Maddox
Kendall/Kyndell
Brielle
Briella
Brianna
Brianne
Any of those nicknames, and JUST nicknames like JUST Alex or JUST Sam, I'm SO sick of that!
I know theres WAY more, but thats just some.
No offense to anyone with that name.
i can deal with hayden but jayden and aidan have got to go. also i really used to like kadin (it's my cousins name) but my cousin's ten so it was a while ago, it has gotten wayyyy to annoying now. and popular.
neveah is BAD.
tatum for a girl is disgusting. along with raegan.
also, i don't like most filler middle names.
Nevaeh.
Honestly, what the heck? It's just horrible on SO many levels.
ALL the -aden names need to stop. NOW. I dread to think how many -adens will be in each classroom in a few years time.
And people need to stop giving girls masculine names. It's horrid!
Girls:
Morgan
Danielle
Brooke
Nicole
Ella
Megan
Amy
Molly
Holly
Caitlin
Maddison
Leah
Georgia
Lauren
Amber
Bethany
Raegan
Paige
Paignton
Alesha
Tia
Maya
Courtney
Lacey
Shannon
Lexie
Kayleigh
Alicia
Boys:
Ethan
Jake
Callum
Ryan
Liam
Tyler
Jayden
Cameron
Connor
Isacc
Nathan
Owen
Kyle
Logan
Mason
Rhys
Riley
Kai
Freddie
Hayden
Brandan
Kian
Bailey
Ashton
Ellis
Corey
Jay
Sean
Keegan
Brylee, Riley for a girl Rileigh whatever and Jayden and ALL the ayden names. They are so ugly and sound bad for when they grow up and have to be professional adults.
All the -ayden names. They're SO overdone. And stupid things like Renesmee. It's not a name people!
EDIT: Oh, and I so agree with Alice. Nevaeh is HORRIBLE, as are boy's names on girls.
Tucker %26amp; Tate.
Tucker rhymes with something profane and those poor child WILL be made fun off.
And Tate sounds like taint, which is gross.
And the aydens...
Nevaeh, Rhys, Bella %26amp; Edward, all the -ayden names
All of the ayden names!
Nevaeh. that is just junk that someone made up. I hear it all the time now and its dumb
Sasha its not my fav......sorry to all the sashas out there
The only names i don't like are:
adyn names too! LOL
but i don't think you should have posted this! Alot of people might have their feelings hurt. I know I actually LOVE alot of those names that you guys hate such as:
Morgan (my little sister)
and Sam is my favorite name!! (no, it is not my name, but i still love it)and alot moreWhat newer names do you think parents should stop naming their children?
Rhett, Gage, any boys names for girls like Riley, Cody, Avery and any names with really stupid spellings like Rian, Kameryn, Jaysen
edit: I totally agree with kissme. I used to be able to say my name is Jennifer and no questions we asked. Now I have to spell it for people because they try and spell it Jenifer, Jenniffer, Jeniffer, Jennyfer, Ginnyffer or something else totally outragoues!
Nevaeh is HORRIFIC. And so many people are like it's heaven spelled backwards! Its still horrible. I hate that name. They -aden names are getting old but they are still cute. The problem is that when a grown man is named Caden it's not cute, its just odd. But I must say Nevaeh wins for me on the most disgusting name ever. I also dislike names that are spelled wrong so that they are different. I.E. Alexis spelled Aleksis. Or throwing ';y';s where ';i';s should be or ';k';s where ';c';s belong or ';z';s in general. I especially hate when people spell Michael, Mikel. WTF? It seems like the younger you are when you have a child the more f'd up the name will be. People think that their child will enjoy being ';different'; but nobody enjoys their name being misspelled every single day. My name is Lindsey (which is normal) but people CONSTANTLY spell my name Lindsay or Lyndsey or (get this) Lyndzie? It's annoying and I vow to never spell my child's name in a way that it will be commonly misspelled.
All those -ayden names.
Madison
Addison
Nevaeh
Olivia
Adrienne
Arianna
Maddox
Kendall/Kyndell
Brielle
Briella
Brianna
Brianne
Any of those nicknames, and JUST nicknames like JUST Alex or JUST Sam, I'm SO sick of that!
I know theres WAY more, but thats just some.
No offense to anyone with that name.
i can deal with hayden but jayden and aidan have got to go. also i really used to like kadin (it's my cousins name) but my cousin's ten so it was a while ago, it has gotten wayyyy to annoying now. and popular.
neveah is BAD.
tatum for a girl is disgusting. along with raegan.
also, i don't like most filler middle names.
Nevaeh.
Honestly, what the heck? It's just horrible on SO many levels.
ALL the -aden names need to stop. NOW. I dread to think how many -adens will be in each classroom in a few years time.
And people need to stop giving girls masculine names. It's horrid!
Girls:
Morgan
Danielle
Brooke
Nicole
Ella
Megan
Amy
Molly
Holly
Caitlin
Maddison
Leah
Georgia
Lauren
Amber
Bethany
Raegan
Paige
Paignton
Alesha
Tia
Maya
Courtney
Lacey
Shannon
Lexie
Kayleigh
Alicia
Boys:
Ethan
Jake
Callum
Ryan
Liam
Tyler
Jayden
Cameron
Connor
Isacc
Nathan
Owen
Kyle
Logan
Mason
Rhys
Riley
Kai
Freddie
Hayden
Brandan
Kian
Bailey
Ashton
Ellis
Corey
Jay
Sean
Keegan
Brylee, Riley for a girl Rileigh whatever and Jayden and ALL the ayden names. They are so ugly and sound bad for when they grow up and have to be professional adults.
All the -ayden names. They're SO overdone. And stupid things like Renesmee. It's not a name people!
EDIT: Oh, and I so agree with Alice. Nevaeh is HORRIBLE, as are boy's names on girls.
Tucker %26amp; Tate.
Tucker rhymes with something profane and those poor child WILL be made fun off.
And Tate sounds like taint, which is gross.
And the aydens...
Nevaeh, Rhys, Bella %26amp; Edward, all the -ayden names
All of the ayden names!
Nevaeh. that is just junk that someone made up. I hear it all the time now and its dumb
Sasha its not my fav......sorry to all the sashas out there
What can I cook for my parents wedding anniversary?
I want a meal idea which isn't too expensive or hard to cook. I need to be able to cook it in the afternoon and then like heat it up in the evening also could do with an accompanying starter and dessert. Any ideas?What can I cook for my parents wedding anniversary?
Starter: I would go for a garlic bread. You can buy them pre-made and frozen and then you just have to pop it in the oven.
Meal: Some sort of pasta with white sauce. Fettucini Alfredo maybe.
Dessert: Tiramisu-you can also buy these pre-made. Or you can bake them a cake and write Happy Anniversary on it. Or maybe a cheesecake-you can also buy these pre made.
Then get them a nice bottle of red wine to go with at fabulous Italian dinner. If you're not old enough to buy the wine then buy some sparkling cider :). If you need any more ideas just let me know :).What can I cook for my parents wedding anniversary?
make a simple salad of prepared mixed greens, cherry tomatoes, and maybe open a can of artichoke hearts. Assemble and then dress w/ their favorite dressing table side. For the main course serve a pasta dish. Prepare the pasta ahead of time and put in the fridge. Buy prepared pesto in the refrigerated part of your grocery store, also buy some parm cheese and sundried tomatoes. When ready to serve heat up pasta, stir in pesto and sundried tomatoes and heat up to get chill off pesto. Plate it and sprinkle cheese on top and serve. For dessert make texas sheet cake. It has to sit after-awhile after its prepared so the frosting can set up. Its delicious. Enjoy
Texas sheet cake
1 cup butter
1 cup water
4 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder
2 cups all-purpose flour
2 cups white sugar
1/2 teaspoon salt
2 eggs
1/2 cup sour cream
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 cup butter
4 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder
5 tablespoons milk
4 cups confectioners' sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 cup chopped walnuts
1.Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C). Grease a 15x10 inch jelly roll pan.
2.Bring 1 cup butter, water and 4 tablespoons cocoa to a boil in a large saucepan. While still hot, remove from heat and add 2 cups flour, 2 cups white sugar, and salt. Mix well. Beat in eggs, sour cream, and baking soda. Do not beat too long.
3.Pour batter into greased 15x10 inch jelly roll pan. Bake at 375 degrees F (190 degrees C) for 20 to 25 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted into center of cake comes out clean.
4.To Make Icing: Bring 1/2 cup butter or margarine, 4 tablespoons cocoa and 5 tablespoons milk to a boil. Remove from heat. While still hot, add confectioners' sugar vanilla and nuts. Beat well. Ice cake while icing is still hot.
pasta with a really nice sauce, followed by pavlova which you can prepare earlier and leave in the fridge. you could make a starter of melon and parma ham which is a little bit pricey but yummy and no cooking. :)
do they have a favorite? you could cook some steaks or burgers with potatoes and a simple dessert like ice cream or a cake? its hard to give advice if your not giving a price limit.
What are their favorite foods? It's a little hard to advise you on what to cook when I don't know what they like to eat or what they're allergic to etc...
Appetizer- Chicken wings
Meal- Steaks, string beans, mac n cheese, rolls
Dessert- Sundaes
bread. everyone likes bread.
Lasagna with easy mixed salad with italian dressing for desert fruit pies
Hard to anwer,
Starter: I would go for a garlic bread. You can buy them pre-made and frozen and then you just have to pop it in the oven.
Meal: Some sort of pasta with white sauce. Fettucini Alfredo maybe.
Dessert: Tiramisu-you can also buy these pre-made. Or you can bake them a cake and write Happy Anniversary on it. Or maybe a cheesecake-you can also buy these pre made.
Then get them a nice bottle of red wine to go with at fabulous Italian dinner. If you're not old enough to buy the wine then buy some sparkling cider :). If you need any more ideas just let me know :).What can I cook for my parents wedding anniversary?
make a simple salad of prepared mixed greens, cherry tomatoes, and maybe open a can of artichoke hearts. Assemble and then dress w/ their favorite dressing table side. For the main course serve a pasta dish. Prepare the pasta ahead of time and put in the fridge. Buy prepared pesto in the refrigerated part of your grocery store, also buy some parm cheese and sundried tomatoes. When ready to serve heat up pasta, stir in pesto and sundried tomatoes and heat up to get chill off pesto. Plate it and sprinkle cheese on top and serve. For dessert make texas sheet cake. It has to sit after-awhile after its prepared so the frosting can set up. Its delicious. Enjoy
Texas sheet cake
1 cup butter
1 cup water
4 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder
2 cups all-purpose flour
2 cups white sugar
1/2 teaspoon salt
2 eggs
1/2 cup sour cream
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 cup butter
4 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder
5 tablespoons milk
4 cups confectioners' sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 cup chopped walnuts
1.Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C). Grease a 15x10 inch jelly roll pan.
2.Bring 1 cup butter, water and 4 tablespoons cocoa to a boil in a large saucepan. While still hot, remove from heat and add 2 cups flour, 2 cups white sugar, and salt. Mix well. Beat in eggs, sour cream, and baking soda. Do not beat too long.
3.Pour batter into greased 15x10 inch jelly roll pan. Bake at 375 degrees F (190 degrees C) for 20 to 25 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted into center of cake comes out clean.
4.To Make Icing: Bring 1/2 cup butter or margarine, 4 tablespoons cocoa and 5 tablespoons milk to a boil. Remove from heat. While still hot, add confectioners' sugar vanilla and nuts. Beat well. Ice cake while icing is still hot.
pasta with a really nice sauce, followed by pavlova which you can prepare earlier and leave in the fridge. you could make a starter of melon and parma ham which is a little bit pricey but yummy and no cooking. :)
do they have a favorite? you could cook some steaks or burgers with potatoes and a simple dessert like ice cream or a cake? its hard to give advice if your not giving a price limit.
What are their favorite foods? It's a little hard to advise you on what to cook when I don't know what they like to eat or what they're allergic to etc...
Appetizer- Chicken wings
Meal- Steaks, string beans, mac n cheese, rolls
Dessert- Sundaes
bread. everyone likes bread.
Lasagna with easy mixed salad with italian dressing for desert fruit pies
Hard to anwer,
At what age do you think parents should let their kid start dating?
Some people say that kids should start dating at age 12 while other parents don't let their kids start dating until they are 18. What do you think?
Do you think that some parents are too strict when it comes to letting their kids date?At what age do you think parents should let their kid start dating?
Well my parents never had any set ';limit';
As far as I'm concerned kids should be able to hang out with whoever. Unless the parent thinks the kid isn't someone they want their kids around. Kids in elementary school will have ';boyfriends'; and ';girlfriends'; but until you get up to maybe late eighth grade or high school, these kids don't have any money to take the kid anywhere, and will most likely be just hanging out like they would with any other kid. Sure they might kiss. I think that it shouldn't matter, as long as they know there is a responsible adult present, so they won't be getting into any promiscuous situations before they're old enough. =]At what age do you think parents should let their kid start dating?
when the child is old enough to understand what it is. when they can afford to provide the money to pay for the date and gas in the car. and after they know enough about sex and how to be protected and be safe
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Do you think that some parents are too strict when it comes to letting their kids date?At what age do you think parents should let their kid start dating?
Well my parents never had any set ';limit';
As far as I'm concerned kids should be able to hang out with whoever. Unless the parent thinks the kid isn't someone they want their kids around. Kids in elementary school will have ';boyfriends'; and ';girlfriends'; but until you get up to maybe late eighth grade or high school, these kids don't have any money to take the kid anywhere, and will most likely be just hanging out like they would with any other kid. Sure they might kiss. I think that it shouldn't matter, as long as they know there is a responsible adult present, so they won't be getting into any promiscuous situations before they're old enough. =]At what age do you think parents should let their kid start dating?
when the child is old enough to understand what it is. when they can afford to provide the money to pay for the date and gas in the car. and after they know enough about sex and how to be protected and be safe
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How can u convince your divorced parents to move back in together?
The reason i need help with this because whenever i see them they don't talk and i just want things to be right because now my dad has this HUGE house all to himself and i wanna move in with him but i also want my mom to come!Those who have divorced parents because someone cheated i feel sorry because i know what you are going through.When i was little i thought my parent would be together forever and i always wanna stick to what i think.(im not bossy!)just please help me!How can u convince your divorced parents to move back in together?
I am sorry but I really don't think that they will get back together any time soon. If one person cheated on the other then the trust is gone. The person feels betrayed, hurt and will also have low self esteem about being cheated on. If they stayed together they would probably still not talk to each other or else they would just fight all of the time. This doesn't mean that you still can't love both of your parents-you should love them they are your parents, but please try to understand them and try to get along with your different life now. After my parents divorced they became really good friends, but it did take time.How can u convince your divorced parents to move back in together?
You can't force or convince them to move back in together. They obviously separated for a reason and believed that was the best option for them.
I know this is impacting you right now, but are you even pausing to think how it would affect your parents by moving back in so that they can play ';happy family'; for your sake? It could be so emotionally gut wrenching for them
you cannot convince people who don't want to be together to get back together. I wish life was like that but it's not, unless your parents want to there is nothing you can do or say that will change their minds. I hate hearing stories like yours because it makes me sad, just trying and spend as much time with both parents as possible and love them. good luck hon
Your parents will NEVER get back together. NEVER. Get over it. What you want is not going to happen and trying to convince them otherwise is pointless. They divorced for a good reason and staying together just because you want them to is selfish and pointless.
you will have to make peace with the idea they will not ever get back together, sorry but that is the reality of it, hope you do find peace in this situation
I am sorry but I really don't think that they will get back together any time soon. If one person cheated on the other then the trust is gone. The person feels betrayed, hurt and will also have low self esteem about being cheated on. If they stayed together they would probably still not talk to each other or else they would just fight all of the time. This doesn't mean that you still can't love both of your parents-you should love them they are your parents, but please try to understand them and try to get along with your different life now. After my parents divorced they became really good friends, but it did take time.How can u convince your divorced parents to move back in together?
You can't force or convince them to move back in together. They obviously separated for a reason and believed that was the best option for them.
I know this is impacting you right now, but are you even pausing to think how it would affect your parents by moving back in so that they can play ';happy family'; for your sake? It could be so emotionally gut wrenching for them
you cannot convince people who don't want to be together to get back together. I wish life was like that but it's not, unless your parents want to there is nothing you can do or say that will change their minds. I hate hearing stories like yours because it makes me sad, just trying and spend as much time with both parents as possible and love them. good luck hon
Your parents will NEVER get back together. NEVER. Get over it. What you want is not going to happen and trying to convince them otherwise is pointless. They divorced for a good reason and staying together just because you want them to is selfish and pointless.
you will have to make peace with the idea they will not ever get back together, sorry but that is the reality of it, hope you do find peace in this situation
What is the fairest way a parent can discipline all of their children?
I have 6 kids. A boy age 9, a boy age 7, two girls both 5, and two more boys who are 3. They all have to follow the general house rules but obviously the older kids have more responsibilites and such. But I am always worried that we are either being too hard on them or not hard enough.
My question is how do you know whether you should have different consequences for all your kids or have them all the same??What is the fairest way a parent can discipline all of their children?
They should be different according to age and each individuals circumstance. You could take a toy away from a five year old and this could be devastating to them whereas the nine year old probably would not care and just find something else. You need to find something that works for each individual child.What is the fairest way a parent can discipline all of their children?
My children are 5,3,2, and 2 months (but he doesn't count yet lol), but yes they all have responsibilities and even with the small age differences I also have different consequences, I try to be firm with all of them but I usually have to be harder on the smaller two (not like a drill seargent but just let them know what moma say I mean)
All kids are not the same and so the same discipline may not be needed for all of them.However if one does something the other does the same consequences should follow.
Have them kneel down on raw rice.
My question is how do you know whether you should have different consequences for all your kids or have them all the same??What is the fairest way a parent can discipline all of their children?
They should be different according to age and each individuals circumstance. You could take a toy away from a five year old and this could be devastating to them whereas the nine year old probably would not care and just find something else. You need to find something that works for each individual child.What is the fairest way a parent can discipline all of their children?
My children are 5,3,2, and 2 months (but he doesn't count yet lol), but yes they all have responsibilities and even with the small age differences I also have different consequences, I try to be firm with all of them but I usually have to be harder on the smaller two (not like a drill seargent but just let them know what moma say I mean)
All kids are not the same and so the same discipline may not be needed for all of them.However if one does something the other does the same consequences should follow.
Have them kneel down on raw rice.
What are the chances of a parent seeing a flipped up septum silver circular barbell?
mum says no. dont know if she will say yes. i want it soon. if i get it pierced higher, will she see? and wen u sneeze does it go all snotty and gross? what are the approx healing times. any tips for wen i get it done?What are the chances of a parent seeing a flipped up septum silver circular barbell?
assuming you are going to go to a professional, these are all reputable questions to ask them.
most of the answers depend on the anatomy and shape of your nose, how hard you sneeze, how high your nostrils are and such, your best bet would actually be to just go to your local piercing shop and just have a consultation with the piercer, they will then be able to look at your nose and tell you how visible it would be in these situations.
healing times, same with any piercing, 6-8 weeks with correct aftercare, but i will let you know that if you intend on wearing it down then flipped up while around your mom, it will take much much longer to heal as the constant movement will create inflammation and lengthen the time the fistula has to heal.
there are some places that will pierce with a retainer, which is often a piece of silver metal but shaped in a way that when flipped up, curves in so as to almost hug your septum so it does not flip down as easy. if you do get it pierced, it is suggested that you keep the jewelry, either retainer or curved barbell bent so it can be flipped up, in one position during the duration of the healing process so that it does not move unnecessarily and heals quickly.
tips: go to a professional. every nose has a ';sweet spot'; which is where piercers put a septum piercing, assuming yours is in a good spot, it should not hurt much as it is not cartilage but skin like that of the earlobe, but thinner.What are the chances of a parent seeing a flipped up septum silver circular barbell?
First off you can't just get it pierced higher because there is a certain place were they need to pierce it at. And how are you going to get it pierced if she says no? Are you planing on doing it yourself? Because if you are don't it's too hard of a piercing to do. If you do get it pierced it's not hard at all to hide unless she is going to be looking up your nose. I've never had mine get all ';gross'; but if I have a cold or something I don't put it up... otherwise it might.
assuming you are going to go to a professional, these are all reputable questions to ask them.
most of the answers depend on the anatomy and shape of your nose, how hard you sneeze, how high your nostrils are and such, your best bet would actually be to just go to your local piercing shop and just have a consultation with the piercer, they will then be able to look at your nose and tell you how visible it would be in these situations.
healing times, same with any piercing, 6-8 weeks with correct aftercare, but i will let you know that if you intend on wearing it down then flipped up while around your mom, it will take much much longer to heal as the constant movement will create inflammation and lengthen the time the fistula has to heal.
there are some places that will pierce with a retainer, which is often a piece of silver metal but shaped in a way that when flipped up, curves in so as to almost hug your septum so it does not flip down as easy. if you do get it pierced, it is suggested that you keep the jewelry, either retainer or curved barbell bent so it can be flipped up, in one position during the duration of the healing process so that it does not move unnecessarily and heals quickly.
tips: go to a professional. every nose has a ';sweet spot'; which is where piercers put a septum piercing, assuming yours is in a good spot, it should not hurt much as it is not cartilage but skin like that of the earlobe, but thinner.What are the chances of a parent seeing a flipped up septum silver circular barbell?
First off you can't just get it pierced higher because there is a certain place were they need to pierce it at. And how are you going to get it pierced if she says no? Are you planing on doing it yourself? Because if you are don't it's too hard of a piercing to do. If you do get it pierced it's not hard at all to hide unless she is going to be looking up your nose. I've never had mine get all ';gross'; but if I have a cold or something I don't put it up... otherwise it might.
Can the custodial parent take a child our of the country without permission from the non-custodial parent?
My daughter is 15 years old and has a passport. The passport was applied for without documentation for the non-custodail parent. We are planning a vacation to Mexico in 2009, however with the security at such high levels I'm affraid we will be unable to get through security at the airport. One additional detail to mention is that I am the only parent listed on my daughter birth certificate. Please also note my daughter has not had any contact with the non-custodial parent. Your feedback would be greatly appreciated.Can the custodial parent take a child our of the country without permission from the non-custodial parent?
No, no, no. The other parent can basically say you kidnapped the child if you leave the country without his permission. Even if he doesn't care about your daughter he can do it to get at you.
As far as border crossing goes, having only one name on the birth certificate will make it easier for you to cross. I know Amtrak requires a letter from the other parent to take the child across the border if you have 2 parents listed.Can the custodial parent take a child our of the country without permission from the non-custodial parent?
You don't have to have any permission from him for anything . I have a 4 year old and the child has never seen his real father. I have never had any issues with needing him for anything or anything like that . I am also the custodial parent and my sons father is not on the birth certificate either. when you don't have the father on there it is as if the father is unknown or as if she never had one... Have fun with your lil girl in Mexico!!!!
If you have sole custody of the child then it should not be an issue. A statement from a judge would be good to keep with the passport when travelling. If the other parent lives in the same area and writes a letter stating she is ok to leave on a trip, then the letter and a photo copy of their drivers licence should be accompanied by the passport. It has worked for me in the past. Good luck. Better to have the note then have problems and ruin your trip.
If you are the only one on the birth certificate and there hasn't been any kind of a fight over the child, then you are in the free and clear.
If your kid has a US passport that's the end of the question. Go to www.state.gov and look up rules on traveling to Mexico. I don't think you'll have a problem at all.
If the other parent has never been involved then I don't think it will be an issue because then you have sole custody. If you have joint custody then I think you need permission.
not without permission.
but maybe if ur not moving.
yeah you have custody
No, no, no. The other parent can basically say you kidnapped the child if you leave the country without his permission. Even if he doesn't care about your daughter he can do it to get at you.
As far as border crossing goes, having only one name on the birth certificate will make it easier for you to cross. I know Amtrak requires a letter from the other parent to take the child across the border if you have 2 parents listed.Can the custodial parent take a child our of the country without permission from the non-custodial parent?
You don't have to have any permission from him for anything . I have a 4 year old and the child has never seen his real father. I have never had any issues with needing him for anything or anything like that . I am also the custodial parent and my sons father is not on the birth certificate either. when you don't have the father on there it is as if the father is unknown or as if she never had one... Have fun with your lil girl in Mexico!!!!
If you have sole custody of the child then it should not be an issue. A statement from a judge would be good to keep with the passport when travelling. If the other parent lives in the same area and writes a letter stating she is ok to leave on a trip, then the letter and a photo copy of their drivers licence should be accompanied by the passport. It has worked for me in the past. Good luck. Better to have the note then have problems and ruin your trip.
If you are the only one on the birth certificate and there hasn't been any kind of a fight over the child, then you are in the free and clear.
If your kid has a US passport that's the end of the question. Go to www.state.gov and look up rules on traveling to Mexico. I don't think you'll have a problem at all.
If the other parent has never been involved then I don't think it will be an issue because then you have sole custody. If you have joint custody then I think you need permission.
not without permission.
but maybe if ur not moving.
yeah you have custody
How can we guarantee that adoptive parents reveal adoptive status to the adoptee?
Are there any ways that would ensure that, so no adoptee would have to be a LDA? (Late Discovery Adoptee)
Thanks for your ideas.How can we guarantee that adoptive parents reveal adoptive status to the adoptee?
I think all adoptive parents should tell their adoptees about their past from the beginning. Having said that, I'm not sure there is any way to guarantee. Legislating parental communication would be interfering with the family by the government in a way that we should resist, in general.
I do think we could notify adoptees of their status when they turn 18. With that required notification, I would expect many adoptive parents would want to tell their children earlier so that they are the ones to tell them.
Probably the most important and effective step we could take would be to change society's attitudes towards adoption. A recognition of the difference of adoption and, at the same time, a de-stigmatization of adoption, would make parents more likely (though it wouldn't guarantee) to be honest with their children.
The fact that people insist on lying to themselves and to their children about the differences inherent in adoption, that they continue to insist there is NO DIFFERENCE between adoption and giving birth, contributes to stigmatizing adoptions (and adoptees) and convinces parents that they should keep it a secret.
That needs to end.How can we guarantee that adoptive parents reveal adoptive status to the adoptee?
Life doesn't come with guarantees. I don't know how old you are but, as an adult, it is something you learn. There are absolutely just not any guarantees about anything in life -- other than that none of us make it through alive.
I absolutely believe very strongly in letting children who are adopted know immediately that they are adopted, and sharing with them everything about their birth and their history. I don't believe in secrets, I feel strongly about telling people the truth, and I think everyone has the right to know their birth story. But there is no way to guarantee this will happen.
I would like to guarantee that no child is ever left to go hungry. We have plenty of food in this world but, there is no way to guarantee even to your own child that they will be fed. Certainly we can't guarantee that something as subjective as revealing adoption status to one's children is ever made to hold. When I adopted my child, I told his birthparents that I believed strongly in sharing thier story with the child and I made it clear to them how I felt. I established trust with them. And I have upheld that trust and I love my child just as if I'd given birth to him myself and; I will always be grateful to them for having done what I could not.
All adoptees deserve the right to know. For those who are internationally adopted, it's obvious they're adopted becaues they don't look like their adoptive parents. For those parents who never tell their children they're adopted, they will find out one day and be very upset. It's best to tell the child as soon as they're able to understand.
You can't guarantee it. Once a child is adopted it's up to the adoptive parents.
I think it is in the best interests of the child to talk about it openly from a young age as ';secrets'; of this kind make the person feel like they are ';bad'; when it finally comes out.
OPenness in adoption is something that many from all parts of the adoption triad are promoting. It's so much healthier for all rather than the secrets and lies that abounded in adoption's history.
Universal Soldier: the appropriate time for an adoptee is know is at their adoption. Even as babies, they should always be told, even if they don't completely understand. Many LDAs report feeling left-out %26amp; different %26amp; not knowing why. For some, finding out that they were adopted answers a lot of questions.
Also, not telling the children the truth until ';an appropriate age';, well, when is the appropriate age? Will the child feel betrayed because the parents didn't tell him or her sooner? The longer you leave off telling them the truth, the longer you risk them finding out by accident %26amp; that can cause all sorts of problems.
I always knew I was adopted %26amp; it didn't negatively affect my ';upbringing %26amp; peace'; as a kid.
As for the original question, I don't know, but I wish there was a way. Adoptive parents should care about their child enough to be honest with them from the start.
You could require a home visit (or that the parent's bring the child in) at a specific age to reveal the adoptive status. Any form of letters or phone calls would be too easy to fake. Of course, considering that you wouldn't do this until the adoptee is years away from having been adopted (if adopted as an infant), I'm not sure of how easy tracking would be if the parents were determined to not reveal this to their child. There's really no guarantee in the end that all adoptees will find out at a younger age. The best that any agency can do is require later visits at an appropriate age and to stay involved with the families, but very persistent families will still slip out of the loop.
The biggest thing that can be done is some for of outreach to the community. If it isn't seen as a negative thing to be adopted, then no one has a reason to hide it from their child. Right now, there's a weird stigma of being ';abandoned'; or ';not wanted'; associated with being an adoptee, even though they have the special privilege of being the only children who *know* that their parents wanted to have them (consider all of the paperwork they had to fill out, when every other kid has no way of knowing whether or not they came from a broken condem or months of trying!).
Phil's answer is excellent. I'm adopted and my parents told me from the start that i was adopted. I have yet to meet a late discovery adoptee who wasn't negatively affected by not being told. All of the evidence points to the fact that telling the truth from the start ensures a healthier life for the adoptee and a healthier parent-child relationship. Any relationship that starts off with dishonesty is bound to have problems. This is particularly true of a relationship as important as the parent-child relationship.
As for how to ensure that adoptive parents tell the truth, I can't say that there is a way to guarantee this. However, I believe agencies should strongly stress the importance of honesty from the start.
I think that all adoptees have a right to know where they came from....and when their parents give them up for adoption....it shouldnt only be about protecting the parents rights....but also the rights of the child.
There's no gurantee Julie. And it may hurt or spoil the relationship once it is revealed. Sometimes, it is better, if it is kept a secret till the end.cosmetics products
Thanks for your ideas.How can we guarantee that adoptive parents reveal adoptive status to the adoptee?
I think all adoptive parents should tell their adoptees about their past from the beginning. Having said that, I'm not sure there is any way to guarantee. Legislating parental communication would be interfering with the family by the government in a way that we should resist, in general.
I do think we could notify adoptees of their status when they turn 18. With that required notification, I would expect many adoptive parents would want to tell their children earlier so that they are the ones to tell them.
Probably the most important and effective step we could take would be to change society's attitudes towards adoption. A recognition of the difference of adoption and, at the same time, a de-stigmatization of adoption, would make parents more likely (though it wouldn't guarantee) to be honest with their children.
The fact that people insist on lying to themselves and to their children about the differences inherent in adoption, that they continue to insist there is NO DIFFERENCE between adoption and giving birth, contributes to stigmatizing adoptions (and adoptees) and convinces parents that they should keep it a secret.
That needs to end.How can we guarantee that adoptive parents reveal adoptive status to the adoptee?
Life doesn't come with guarantees. I don't know how old you are but, as an adult, it is something you learn. There are absolutely just not any guarantees about anything in life -- other than that none of us make it through alive.
I absolutely believe very strongly in letting children who are adopted know immediately that they are adopted, and sharing with them everything about their birth and their history. I don't believe in secrets, I feel strongly about telling people the truth, and I think everyone has the right to know their birth story. But there is no way to guarantee this will happen.
I would like to guarantee that no child is ever left to go hungry. We have plenty of food in this world but, there is no way to guarantee even to your own child that they will be fed. Certainly we can't guarantee that something as subjective as revealing adoption status to one's children is ever made to hold. When I adopted my child, I told his birthparents that I believed strongly in sharing thier story with the child and I made it clear to them how I felt. I established trust with them. And I have upheld that trust and I love my child just as if I'd given birth to him myself and; I will always be grateful to them for having done what I could not.
All adoptees deserve the right to know. For those who are internationally adopted, it's obvious they're adopted becaues they don't look like their adoptive parents. For those parents who never tell their children they're adopted, they will find out one day and be very upset. It's best to tell the child as soon as they're able to understand.
You can't guarantee it. Once a child is adopted it's up to the adoptive parents.
I think it is in the best interests of the child to talk about it openly from a young age as ';secrets'; of this kind make the person feel like they are ';bad'; when it finally comes out.
OPenness in adoption is something that many from all parts of the adoption triad are promoting. It's so much healthier for all rather than the secrets and lies that abounded in adoption's history.
Universal Soldier: the appropriate time for an adoptee is know is at their adoption. Even as babies, they should always be told, even if they don't completely understand. Many LDAs report feeling left-out %26amp; different %26amp; not knowing why. For some, finding out that they were adopted answers a lot of questions.
Also, not telling the children the truth until ';an appropriate age';, well, when is the appropriate age? Will the child feel betrayed because the parents didn't tell him or her sooner? The longer you leave off telling them the truth, the longer you risk them finding out by accident %26amp; that can cause all sorts of problems.
I always knew I was adopted %26amp; it didn't negatively affect my ';upbringing %26amp; peace'; as a kid.
As for the original question, I don't know, but I wish there was a way. Adoptive parents should care about their child enough to be honest with them from the start.
You could require a home visit (or that the parent's bring the child in) at a specific age to reveal the adoptive status. Any form of letters or phone calls would be too easy to fake. Of course, considering that you wouldn't do this until the adoptee is years away from having been adopted (if adopted as an infant), I'm not sure of how easy tracking would be if the parents were determined to not reveal this to their child. There's really no guarantee in the end that all adoptees will find out at a younger age. The best that any agency can do is require later visits at an appropriate age and to stay involved with the families, but very persistent families will still slip out of the loop.
The biggest thing that can be done is some for of outreach to the community. If it isn't seen as a negative thing to be adopted, then no one has a reason to hide it from their child. Right now, there's a weird stigma of being ';abandoned'; or ';not wanted'; associated with being an adoptee, even though they have the special privilege of being the only children who *know* that their parents wanted to have them (consider all of the paperwork they had to fill out, when every other kid has no way of knowing whether or not they came from a broken condem or months of trying!).
Phil's answer is excellent. I'm adopted and my parents told me from the start that i was adopted. I have yet to meet a late discovery adoptee who wasn't negatively affected by not being told. All of the evidence points to the fact that telling the truth from the start ensures a healthier life for the adoptee and a healthier parent-child relationship. Any relationship that starts off with dishonesty is bound to have problems. This is particularly true of a relationship as important as the parent-child relationship.
As for how to ensure that adoptive parents tell the truth, I can't say that there is a way to guarantee this. However, I believe agencies should strongly stress the importance of honesty from the start.
I think that all adoptees have a right to know where they came from....and when their parents give them up for adoption....it shouldnt only be about protecting the parents rights....but also the rights of the child.
There's no gurantee Julie. And it may hurt or spoil the relationship once it is revealed. Sometimes, it is better, if it is kept a secret till the end.
What do you do when your parents dont aprrove of interracial marriage/or dating?
Okay so im white and my boyfriend is black.We've been dating for a few months and its kinds getting a little serious.My mom is ok with that but my dad isn't.He always talks crap and tries to bring me down because he don't like it.What should I do?What do you do when your parents dont aprrove of interracial marriage/or dating?
Have you asked your dad EXACTLY what he objects to?
If the only reason is the colour of your boyfriends skin, then I would tell him that the 21st Century has no room for racist bigots and if he continues like this he is going to end up a very lonely old man, rather than someone who gets to enjoy time with his family and grandchildren.
However, it could be more than that. As a dad, he probably just wants to protect you.
As a dad myself, I've sometimes wondered how I would be if say my son turned out to be gay. I would want him to be happy whatever he chooses to do in his life, but there is a part of me that would be sad and worried for him - NOT because he was gay, but because of all the bigotry and prejudice he would face from others. Like I say, that's just the protective side coming out.
I would never want to do anything to drive my children away, and if I did, then I'm sure a calm statement of fact from one of them would give me the wake-up call I needed.What do you do when your parents dont aprrove of interracial marriage/or dating?
My parents are both white and they divorced three years ago,
My mom is married to a black guy and my dad married a French woman.
I have no problem with it, although it is a little different because no one else in my family is married to someone of another race. I do not have a problem with it though
The thing is though, my mom lives in Georgia and when we all go out for dinner (like 10 of us) we do get stares and you can see people whispering....but that's just the South for you.
Your dad will eventually get over it, especially when he gets to know your boyfriend. It's just different for him, not something he expected!!
Ignore him? He isn't dating him after all, so why would his disapproval make a difference? It dose not sound like it has made a difference in the past if you two are still together, right?
As long as you are living in your parents' home, you don't have much say in the matter. Your life will start when you can move out on your own. my best to you
haha im black and french coinkidink
Have you asked your dad EXACTLY what he objects to?
If the only reason is the colour of your boyfriends skin, then I would tell him that the 21st Century has no room for racist bigots and if he continues like this he is going to end up a very lonely old man, rather than someone who gets to enjoy time with his family and grandchildren.
However, it could be more than that. As a dad, he probably just wants to protect you.
As a dad myself, I've sometimes wondered how I would be if say my son turned out to be gay. I would want him to be happy whatever he chooses to do in his life, but there is a part of me that would be sad and worried for him - NOT because he was gay, but because of all the bigotry and prejudice he would face from others. Like I say, that's just the protective side coming out.
I would never want to do anything to drive my children away, and if I did, then I'm sure a calm statement of fact from one of them would give me the wake-up call I needed.What do you do when your parents dont aprrove of interracial marriage/or dating?
My parents are both white and they divorced three years ago,
My mom is married to a black guy and my dad married a French woman.
I have no problem with it, although it is a little different because no one else in my family is married to someone of another race. I do not have a problem with it though
The thing is though, my mom lives in Georgia and when we all go out for dinner (like 10 of us) we do get stares and you can see people whispering....but that's just the South for you.
Your dad will eventually get over it, especially when he gets to know your boyfriend. It's just different for him, not something he expected!!
Ignore him? He isn't dating him after all, so why would his disapproval make a difference? It dose not sound like it has made a difference in the past if you two are still together, right?
As long as you are living in your parents' home, you don't have much say in the matter. Your life will start when you can move out on your own. my best to you
haha im black and french coinkidink
What right do I have to prevent my parents from driving?
If I think my aged parents are a hazard on the road, and people keep telling me to take their car keys, what right to I have to interfere. When does a person lose their rights if they have had no accident and they have a current drivers license. If I have the right to force them to give me the car keys, what about younger people in the neighborhood who are worse drivers. The question is: what legal right do I have to stop them from driving, aren't they free citizens of a free country?What right do I have to prevent my parents from driving?
You have no legal right to prevent them from driving. If you could prove, through a doctor, that they are unfit to drive, you ';may'; be able to do something. Ask some of those ';caring'; people if they will be willing to drive your parents around. They sound like busy-bodies to me.What right do I have to prevent my parents from driving?
It isn't a right, it is a responsibility.
Never mind this, '; what about other drivers'; stuff. You parent goes out driving, and gets into a head on which wipes out 4 other people and you could have stopped them from driving? The blood is on your hands, not the hands of the younger people in the neighborhood.
Driving is a privilege, not a right. The DMV has the authority to review a driver's competency level and take away his license if he is deemed no longer fit to drive. We ought to have laws requiring yearly testing for drivers over 65, unfortunately special interest groups for old geezers like A.A.R.P. have repeatedly blocked such legislation.
Here is what you do:
Go to your local DMV and let them know what is going on. They will send your parents a letter stating they have been randomly selected for a senior driving evaluation test. This will take the burden off you and they will be told by authorities that they can no longer drive. Good luck.
You have no legal right to prevent them from driving. If you could prove, through a doctor, that they are unfit to drive, you ';may'; be able to do something. Ask some of those ';caring'; people if they will be willing to drive your parents around. They sound like busy-bodies to me.What right do I have to prevent my parents from driving?
It isn't a right, it is a responsibility.
Never mind this, '; what about other drivers'; stuff. You parent goes out driving, and gets into a head on which wipes out 4 other people and you could have stopped them from driving? The blood is on your hands, not the hands of the younger people in the neighborhood.
Driving is a privilege, not a right. The DMV has the authority to review a driver's competency level and take away his license if he is deemed no longer fit to drive. We ought to have laws requiring yearly testing for drivers over 65, unfortunately special interest groups for old geezers like A.A.R.P. have repeatedly blocked such legislation.
Here is what you do:
Go to your local DMV and let them know what is going on. They will send your parents a letter stating they have been randomly selected for a senior driving evaluation test. This will take the burden off you and they will be told by authorities that they can no longer drive. Good luck.
If I filed taxes this year and my parents claimed me will i get stimulus check?
I made about 5,000 dollars working and I filed taxes. My parents also filed with me. Do I get a check?If I filed taxes this year and my parents claimed me will i get stimulus check?
Sadly you will not personally get a check if you rparents claimed you. If you are under 17, your parents will get some, but if you are over 17 they will get nothing either.If I filed taxes this year and my parents claimed me will i get stimulus check?
It has been stated here a few hundred times, and on irs.gov and all info that's gone out on the rebate, that dependents are NOT eligible.
If your parents claimed you than you will not get anything.
Nope...but they will for you. You can ask them for the $300
No. You are a dependent. Dependents do not qualify for the rebate.
Nope. Your parents claimed you as a dependant, so they will get $300 for you.
parents get the check - up to them if they give you any of it-don't count on it
Sadly you will not personally get a check if you rparents claimed you. If you are under 17, your parents will get some, but if you are over 17 they will get nothing either.If I filed taxes this year and my parents claimed me will i get stimulus check?
It has been stated here a few hundred times, and on irs.gov and all info that's gone out on the rebate, that dependents are NOT eligible.
If your parents claimed you than you will not get anything.
Nope...but they will for you. You can ask them for the $300
No. You are a dependent. Dependents do not qualify for the rebate.
Nope. Your parents claimed you as a dependant, so they will get $300 for you.
parents get the check - up to them if they give you any of it-don't count on it
How do you deal with a mentally abusive parent?
I am 14 and have a very abusive mother. She sometimes also physically abuses me. She used to be an alcoholic but she is still mentally abusing me and is in total denial about it. My father has recently died and she seems to be taking that out on me. I can't get away from her because my family seems to believe her and running away is out of the question since we live in the middle of nowhere. I am too young to get hired and live on my own. Please Help!How do you deal with a mentally abusive parent?
Hi Jessie,
Sorry to hear life is so tough for you right now! Let me tell you a few things first. Your situation sounds a bit like my own situation when I was your age!
I lived with my dad in the middle of nowhere and he was an alcoholic who took his anger at my mother out on me.
Some things I did to get through the tough times till I could escape were:
1) I reminded myself every single day that what he had to say about me was not true. It was just his alcoholism talking.
2) When he hurt me I reminded myself that it was not about who I was at all. It was about who he was.
3) I did a lot of reading and took a lot of long walks.
4) As soon as I could escape, I did!
5) When I escaped I sought out some help for myself because I knew that I had been through some pretty tough stuff and knew that I had missed a lot of normal teenage stuff. Counselling was very, very helpful to get me back on track.
6) most important of all is I never gave up on me!
Hang in there Jessie! You can get through this and when you do you need to look back at it all once and thoroughly then having seen it from a different point of view and seen that you did well to cope with it all and that you were very resourceful to manage things as well as you did you will be able to let it all go and just move on.
Best Wishes for your future.How do you deal with a mentally abusive parent?
Tell somebody! - like another adult you can trust---- ask your Mom about therapy as an option for her or the both of you- grief counseling could help
You could call the police and get her arrested.
Talk to a teacher at school. Try to get this book. 'How to cope with difficult parents' by Windy Dryden.
Hi Jessie,
Sorry to hear life is so tough for you right now! Let me tell you a few things first. Your situation sounds a bit like my own situation when I was your age!
I lived with my dad in the middle of nowhere and he was an alcoholic who took his anger at my mother out on me.
Some things I did to get through the tough times till I could escape were:
1) I reminded myself every single day that what he had to say about me was not true. It was just his alcoholism talking.
2) When he hurt me I reminded myself that it was not about who I was at all. It was about who he was.
3) I did a lot of reading and took a lot of long walks.
4) As soon as I could escape, I did!
5) When I escaped I sought out some help for myself because I knew that I had been through some pretty tough stuff and knew that I had missed a lot of normal teenage stuff. Counselling was very, very helpful to get me back on track.
6) most important of all is I never gave up on me!
Hang in there Jessie! You can get through this and when you do you need to look back at it all once and thoroughly then having seen it from a different point of view and seen that you did well to cope with it all and that you were very resourceful to manage things as well as you did you will be able to let it all go and just move on.
Best Wishes for your future.How do you deal with a mentally abusive parent?
Tell somebody! - like another adult you can trust---- ask your Mom about therapy as an option for her or the both of you- grief counseling could help
You could call the police and get her arrested.
Talk to a teacher at school. Try to get this book. 'How to cope with difficult parents' by Windy Dryden.
What are some good financial retirement plans for parents after passing on family business?
I am taking over the family business soon (Worth approx. $500,000)
My parents are worried on how they will still sustain financial freedom after passing on their company to me. It is primarily a cash business and I want for them to retire without having to worry about money. They have savings but nothing is in the bank. (Old Asian generation mentality)
I propose treating them like company board members that take a certain percentage from the business, while I keep the rest for expansion opportunities. What will be fair for both sides? Thank you.What are some good financial retirement plans for parents after passing on family business?
In the U.S. this could part of ';estate planning.'; Even if you are not resident here, might try getting some of the info. As you are aware, there are tricky issues involving money, taxes, emotions....
I commend you for caring about taking care of your parents. ';A certain percentage'; sounds to me to be fair.
My parents are worried on how they will still sustain financial freedom after passing on their company to me. It is primarily a cash business and I want for them to retire without having to worry about money. They have savings but nothing is in the bank. (Old Asian generation mentality)
I propose treating them like company board members that take a certain percentage from the business, while I keep the rest for expansion opportunities. What will be fair for both sides? Thank you.What are some good financial retirement plans for parents after passing on family business?
In the U.S. this could part of ';estate planning.'; Even if you are not resident here, might try getting some of the info. As you are aware, there are tricky issues involving money, taxes, emotions....
I commend you for caring about taking care of your parents. ';A certain percentage'; sounds to me to be fair.
My parents travel full time in a motor home. What can I get them for Christmas tied to this?
My parents don't need a lot, but I'd like to get them something fun and tied to the fact that they travel so much. Any suggestions?My parents travel full time in a motor home. What can I get them for Christmas tied to this?
If they don't already have one get them a gps unit. I'm sure that will come in handy.My parents travel full time in a motor home. What can I get them for Christmas tied to this?
They already have one, but thanks!!
cosmetics products
If they don't already have one get them a gps unit. I'm sure that will come in handy.My parents travel full time in a motor home. What can I get them for Christmas tied to this?
They already have one, but thanks!!
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What is the best way to tell my parents about a bad report card?
I have recently received a reportcard with the following grades
C
C
A
C
D
D
I have gotten reports cards with mostly A's and B's before, but this year wasn't all that grade. Other 9 week report cards either have been the same as this or even worse. I only have one 9 week reportcard left to redeem myself.
I'm not very organized, but that's not that much of an issue.
For some reason, I have a problem where I can't pay attention in class sometimes, but this only counts for Algebra and History. I try my best in Science, but I bring home papers with ';15%';s on them. It's madness. I want to get 2 A's, 3 B's and 1 C on my next reportcard. But I doubt this will happen. I complete all my homework and projects, but I still get grades that are down in the gutter.
And tips or suggestions that can somewhat help me?What is the best way to tell my parents about a bad report card?
I am a parent and my advice is to just suck it up and tell them. Tell them why you think you are having trouble and ask for help.
Much better to hear it from the child than to open a letter from school and seeing an A and 2 F's.What is the best way to tell my parents about a bad report card?
I know. I personally opened the letter from my daughter's school to find the A and 2 F's. Just trying to let you know that I have ';been there, done that';.
OH WAT U DO IS GO TO UR PARENTS AND SAY MOM DAD I DIDNT DO SOOO WELL THIS TIME AND I DIDNT WANNA HIDE IT FROM U
I KNO IT SOUNDS A LITTLE BIT SUCK UPISH BUT IT JUST MIGHT WORK
Be honest. Your parents can't stay angry at you forever. Tell the truth and promise to work harder.
The best way is to soften the impact of the truth with a dampening lie, like so: Tell your parents, or better yet fabricate a mock report card with the following grades...
D
D
F
F
F
F
then let them unload on you for a few minutes before busting out with the real report card that says:
C
C
C
D
G
H
little do they know thats not the real card yet!
let them unload some more..
then bust out with the real report card and your punishment will be less severe.. or more.. i forget which.
tell ur parents when theyre in a good mood b/c if u do probly the punishment and anger would be less than when theyre in a bad mood.
eh, make up something that you may have been secretly struggling with. and then tell them you realize now that you need help...... then come up with a plan with your parents. perhaps they will help you with money to buy study programs, there are a lot of ways to become a faster study person. not to mention.... it will always be with you to assist you in learning faster.
Talk to your teachers. Your bad grades reflect on them also. Any good teacher would be more than happy to help a student who really is trying.
Tell your parents the truth, and what you are doing about it. Do not blame it on anyone but yourself. Perhaps your parents can help you. Maybe not!
Keep trying and good luck.
To answer your first question about how to tell you parents my suggestion would be as follows. Just tell them. There is no way to sugar-coat bad grades (trust me I've tried). Even all the promising to do better on the next one wouldn't suffice my parents, they just wanted to see the hard evidence.
The second answer is a way to both soothe your parents concerns and may help you to do better on tests and papers. Get out a sheet of paper, turn it horizontally, and make a grid of your week. Next fill out all the time slots that are occupied by extracurriculars and school. Next start picking days and times to devote to certain subjects.
Lets say you finish all your homework one night, maybe for the next hour you'll go back and review history or algebra in preperation for papers and tests. Putting time aside to focus on one subject even when nothing is due is really helpful.
Showing this kind of thing to your parents may also be helpful in asuring them you are trying and really want to imrove.
I hope you get those great grades!
Be honest with your parents; tell them just what you've said here- that its hard for you to pay attention in those classes. Many times, a medical condition like ADHD or depression, can cause you to loose focus, no matter how hard you try. Your parents can help you rule out those factors. Also, maybe you need a study skills or test taking class- some people need to learn specific strategies, because just winging it isn't enough.
If you're upfront with your folks, and ask THEM for help, they may forget about being angry because they are so pleased at your willingness to be cooperative.
The longer you put it off, the angrier or more disappointed they will be for hiding it from them. Get it over with ASAP. Also, if you feel you are trying your best... Why don't you attach a well written letter similar to what you've written here in your question explaining to your parents why you think you got the grades, what you think you could have tried harder in, and/or asking them for help. Be honest, if you're distracted in class or don't get it, ask your parents to see if they're willing to get you a tutor because you want to do well to make them proud of you, but you cannot do it alone. What subject did you get an A in? It's a class you enjoy or are a ';natural'; at.
Just go to them and tell them that you didn't do well in your grades. That you are trying hard and will continue to try to do better, but you are also not sure why you are having trouble. Suggest to them, hat maybe you could use a tutor to try to do better. But presenting the tutor idea to them, then will see that you are sincere about doing better and will be with you.
C
C
A
C
D
D
I have gotten reports cards with mostly A's and B's before, but this year wasn't all that grade. Other 9 week report cards either have been the same as this or even worse. I only have one 9 week reportcard left to redeem myself.
I'm not very organized, but that's not that much of an issue.
For some reason, I have a problem where I can't pay attention in class sometimes, but this only counts for Algebra and History. I try my best in Science, but I bring home papers with ';15%';s on them. It's madness. I want to get 2 A's, 3 B's and 1 C on my next reportcard. But I doubt this will happen. I complete all my homework and projects, but I still get grades that are down in the gutter.
And tips or suggestions that can somewhat help me?What is the best way to tell my parents about a bad report card?
I am a parent and my advice is to just suck it up and tell them. Tell them why you think you are having trouble and ask for help.
Much better to hear it from the child than to open a letter from school and seeing an A and 2 F's.What is the best way to tell my parents about a bad report card?
I know. I personally opened the letter from my daughter's school to find the A and 2 F's. Just trying to let you know that I have ';been there, done that';.
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OH WAT U DO IS GO TO UR PARENTS AND SAY MOM DAD I DIDNT DO SOOO WELL THIS TIME AND I DIDNT WANNA HIDE IT FROM U
I KNO IT SOUNDS A LITTLE BIT SUCK UPISH BUT IT JUST MIGHT WORK
Be honest. Your parents can't stay angry at you forever. Tell the truth and promise to work harder.
The best way is to soften the impact of the truth with a dampening lie, like so: Tell your parents, or better yet fabricate a mock report card with the following grades...
D
D
F
F
F
F
then let them unload on you for a few minutes before busting out with the real report card that says:
C
C
C
D
G
H
little do they know thats not the real card yet!
let them unload some more..
then bust out with the real report card and your punishment will be less severe.. or more.. i forget which.
tell ur parents when theyre in a good mood b/c if u do probly the punishment and anger would be less than when theyre in a bad mood.
eh, make up something that you may have been secretly struggling with. and then tell them you realize now that you need help...... then come up with a plan with your parents. perhaps they will help you with money to buy study programs, there are a lot of ways to become a faster study person. not to mention.... it will always be with you to assist you in learning faster.
Talk to your teachers. Your bad grades reflect on them also. Any good teacher would be more than happy to help a student who really is trying.
Tell your parents the truth, and what you are doing about it. Do not blame it on anyone but yourself. Perhaps your parents can help you. Maybe not!
Keep trying and good luck.
To answer your first question about how to tell you parents my suggestion would be as follows. Just tell them. There is no way to sugar-coat bad grades (trust me I've tried). Even all the promising to do better on the next one wouldn't suffice my parents, they just wanted to see the hard evidence.
The second answer is a way to both soothe your parents concerns and may help you to do better on tests and papers. Get out a sheet of paper, turn it horizontally, and make a grid of your week. Next fill out all the time slots that are occupied by extracurriculars and school. Next start picking days and times to devote to certain subjects.
Lets say you finish all your homework one night, maybe for the next hour you'll go back and review history or algebra in preperation for papers and tests. Putting time aside to focus on one subject even when nothing is due is really helpful.
Showing this kind of thing to your parents may also be helpful in asuring them you are trying and really want to imrove.
I hope you get those great grades!
Be honest with your parents; tell them just what you've said here- that its hard for you to pay attention in those classes. Many times, a medical condition like ADHD or depression, can cause you to loose focus, no matter how hard you try. Your parents can help you rule out those factors. Also, maybe you need a study skills or test taking class- some people need to learn specific strategies, because just winging it isn't enough.
If you're upfront with your folks, and ask THEM for help, they may forget about being angry because they are so pleased at your willingness to be cooperative.
The longer you put it off, the angrier or more disappointed they will be for hiding it from them. Get it over with ASAP. Also, if you feel you are trying your best... Why don't you attach a well written letter similar to what you've written here in your question explaining to your parents why you think you got the grades, what you think you could have tried harder in, and/or asking them for help. Be honest, if you're distracted in class or don't get it, ask your parents to see if they're willing to get you a tutor because you want to do well to make them proud of you, but you cannot do it alone. What subject did you get an A in? It's a class you enjoy or are a ';natural'; at.
Just go to them and tell them that you didn't do well in your grades. That you are trying hard and will continue to try to do better, but you are also not sure why you are having trouble. Suggest to them, hat maybe you could use a tutor to try to do better. But presenting the tutor idea to them, then will see that you are sincere about doing better and will be with you.
Whats the minimum amount of income a single parent with a child to file for a tax return?
I'm a single mom with one child and would like to know what is the minimum amount of income I would need to make in order to qualify for earned income credit on that child?Whats the minimum amount of income a single parent with a child to file for a tax return?
If you earned between $1 and $50, you would get $9 in Earned Income Credit (EIC). The amount of EIC increases as the amount of earned income increases - until you hit $8050 in earned income. Between $8050 and $14,850, the EIC amount is $2747. Once you earn more than $14,850, the EIC amount slowly decreases until you hit $32,000, at which point it is phased out completely.
All of these figures are based on filing as Single or Head of Household, with one child qualifying for EIC. They are also the figures that would have been used to file a 2006 return - the 2007 EIC table is not yet published, but will be fairly similar to this.
Hope this helps!Whats the minimum amount of income a single parent with a child to file for a tax return?
to get the max its about $14,000 - $15,000
i think $7,000 is when you start getting eligible for the earned income
but it could change for the next year
If you earned between $1 and $50, you would get $9 in Earned Income Credit (EIC). The amount of EIC increases as the amount of earned income increases - until you hit $8050 in earned income. Between $8050 and $14,850, the EIC amount is $2747. Once you earn more than $14,850, the EIC amount slowly decreases until you hit $32,000, at which point it is phased out completely.
All of these figures are based on filing as Single or Head of Household, with one child qualifying for EIC. They are also the figures that would have been used to file a 2006 return - the 2007 EIC table is not yet published, but will be fairly similar to this.
Hope this helps!Whats the minimum amount of income a single parent with a child to file for a tax return?
to get the max its about $14,000 - $15,000
i think $7,000 is when you start getting eligible for the earned income
but it could change for the next year
My parents have forced me to take vyvanse the adhd proactive drug. How can i not loose weight?
I really dont want to loose weight what can i do?My parents have forced me to take vyvanse the adhd proactive drug. How can i not loose weight?
I have the same problem. I take Vyvanse and my appetite is suppressed while on it. What I do now is just force myself to eat even when I am not hungry. As my doctor said it is not that you aren't hungry its that your body doesn't think its hungry. So far my weight has stayed about the same.My parents have forced me to take vyvanse the adhd proactive drug. How can i not loose weight?
Make sure to keep on eating 3 regular healthy meals a day. Try taking healthy yet high energy snacks like almonds.
Hopefully, with time you'll get used to the medication.
Vyvanse like all stimulants is a powerful medication. If you are suffering from ADHD symptoms, it could be quite useful.
I have the same problem. I take Vyvanse and my appetite is suppressed while on it. What I do now is just force myself to eat even when I am not hungry. As my doctor said it is not that you aren't hungry its that your body doesn't think its hungry. So far my weight has stayed about the same.My parents have forced me to take vyvanse the adhd proactive drug. How can i not loose weight?
Make sure to keep on eating 3 regular healthy meals a day. Try taking healthy yet high energy snacks like almonds.
Hopefully, with time you'll get used to the medication.
Vyvanse like all stimulants is a powerful medication. If you are suffering from ADHD symptoms, it could be quite useful.
My parents are financially irresponsible and want me to cosign a personal loan. What should I do?
My parents (in-law's, actually) are in their late 50's, and should be preparing for retirement. In stead, they are spending erratically, racking up massive credit card debt, remodeling their home, etc. Yesterday they asked me to cosign a personal loan, which they plan to use to pay back a payday advance from a predatory lender. How to I help my parents without jeopardizing my financial security, too? Any money I give (I don't lend money to family) is that much less I have for my kid's college accounts.My parents are financially irresponsible and want me to cosign a personal loan. What should I do?
Oh boy, what a mess to be in. On the one hand, you want to help and be accommodating since after all, these are your wife's parents. On the other hand, if you say ';no'; you could strain relations between you and the in-laws, not to mention your wife.
However, to protect your own credit, absolutely do not co-sign on a personal loan ~ever~ with these people. From what I've read, they will probably default on the loan leaving you stuck with paying the tab if you want to preserve your credit. If you want to give them the money that's fine; however, this sets up a precedence that you will give them money when asked, therefore enabling them to continue spending foolishly.
My ex is like your in-laws and my grown sons have a great way of handling their dad's financial irresponsibility:
First, they never hand their dad cash but will buy him groceries or fill up his gas tank whenever he asks for money. If he asks for additional funds, they always reply ';Sorry Dad, that's all I have to spare.';
Secondly, when ever their Dad runs short, they will sit down with him and discuss his spending habits %26amp; bills, and help him develop a strategy for reducing debt. This debt reduction plan may even include having a garage sale, or selling off a car.
You could try this with your inlaws, and even offer to pay for them to go in for credit counseling, but never, ever give them cash or co-sign on a loan. Once you start, you'll be setting yourself up for a lifetime of phone calls and visits from them whining for financial help.
My parents are financially irresponsible and want me to cosign a personal loan. What should I do?
Don't do it. Tell them you don't lend money to anyone, family included. They have made their bed and they should lie in it.
If they try to manipulate you, just tell them you'll prevent them from seeing their grandchildren.
You shouldn't touch this co-signer thingy with a 12 foot barge pole. The only family you are responsible for are the ones under your own roof.
Best wishes, and be strong.
Marcus,
NO, NO, NO and NO! Please do not cosign. It is like co-signing for an inexperienced teen. Practice tough love, much as they would for you if your roles were reversed. Sometimes you have to let them fall clear to the bottom before humility and life kicks in some reality. Your wife will have to understand. Refer them to a debt counselor/consolidation agency and tell them the buck stops here and now. They will be upset with you...What can you really say? I feel for you because you are between a rock and a hard place. Suggest mom and dad in law, health permitting, get a second job. I wish you loads of luck.
DO NOT DO IT! The fact that they need a cosigner at all at their age says it all. You would be jeopardizing your family's future. If you decide to give (lend) them a large amount of money, ask for a Second Trust deed against their house. That way, when they pass away, you may have an opportunity to recoup some of that money.
DO NOT DO IT!!! If they don't repay the loan, the lender will come after YOU and it will negatively affect your credit and will hurt your chances of your financial security in the future. As you said, they are very financially irresponsible and can get you down that path too...
Do not co-sign. Distance yourself from them as much as you can
Do NOT do it!!!!! In their 50s and needing a cosigner? That is sad.
Under no circumstances should you co-sign a personal loan for your inlaws. You already know that chances are they will default on this loan too and then you would be held liable 100% to pay it back.
Not to mention their ';late payments'; and default could hurt your credit score.
Simply tell them a little white lie:
Mainly that your own credit isn't good enough to qualify you as a Co-signer. Case closed. Let them move on to the next prospective family victim.
They will never learn financial responsibility if the family keeps bailing them out. And one more thing.... Never do financial deals with your family and best friends. It has an 80% chance of ruining your relationship with your inlaws and friends.
If you have the cash and feel sorry for them then send a money order to the loan sharks to keep their payments up to date.
But make sure that there is no way that this could be interpreted as you assuming responsibility for their payments. One reason for using a money order and not your personal checks.
Oh boy, what a mess to be in. On the one hand, you want to help and be accommodating since after all, these are your wife's parents. On the other hand, if you say ';no'; you could strain relations between you and the in-laws, not to mention your wife.
However, to protect your own credit, absolutely do not co-sign on a personal loan ~ever~ with these people. From what I've read, they will probably default on the loan leaving you stuck with paying the tab if you want to preserve your credit. If you want to give them the money that's fine; however, this sets up a precedence that you will give them money when asked, therefore enabling them to continue spending foolishly.
My ex is like your in-laws and my grown sons have a great way of handling their dad's financial irresponsibility:
First, they never hand their dad cash but will buy him groceries or fill up his gas tank whenever he asks for money. If he asks for additional funds, they always reply ';Sorry Dad, that's all I have to spare.';
Secondly, when ever their Dad runs short, they will sit down with him and discuss his spending habits %26amp; bills, and help him develop a strategy for reducing debt. This debt reduction plan may even include having a garage sale, or selling off a car.
You could try this with your inlaws, and even offer to pay for them to go in for credit counseling, but never, ever give them cash or co-sign on a loan. Once you start, you'll be setting yourself up for a lifetime of phone calls and visits from them whining for financial help.
My parents are financially irresponsible and want me to cosign a personal loan. What should I do?
Don't do it. Tell them you don't lend money to anyone, family included. They have made their bed and they should lie in it.
If they try to manipulate you, just tell them you'll prevent them from seeing their grandchildren.
You shouldn't touch this co-signer thingy with a 12 foot barge pole. The only family you are responsible for are the ones under your own roof.
Best wishes, and be strong.
Marcus,
NO, NO, NO and NO! Please do not cosign. It is like co-signing for an inexperienced teen. Practice tough love, much as they would for you if your roles were reversed. Sometimes you have to let them fall clear to the bottom before humility and life kicks in some reality. Your wife will have to understand. Refer them to a debt counselor/consolidation agency and tell them the buck stops here and now. They will be upset with you...What can you really say? I feel for you because you are between a rock and a hard place. Suggest mom and dad in law, health permitting, get a second job. I wish you loads of luck.
DO NOT DO IT! The fact that they need a cosigner at all at their age says it all. You would be jeopardizing your family's future. If you decide to give (lend) them a large amount of money, ask for a Second Trust deed against their house. That way, when they pass away, you may have an opportunity to recoup some of that money.
DO NOT DO IT!!! If they don't repay the loan, the lender will come after YOU and it will negatively affect your credit and will hurt your chances of your financial security in the future. As you said, they are very financially irresponsible and can get you down that path too...
Do not co-sign. Distance yourself from them as much as you can
Do NOT do it!!!!! In their 50s and needing a cosigner? That is sad.
Under no circumstances should you co-sign a personal loan for your inlaws. You already know that chances are they will default on this loan too and then you would be held liable 100% to pay it back.
Not to mention their ';late payments'; and default could hurt your credit score.
Simply tell them a little white lie:
Mainly that your own credit isn't good enough to qualify you as a Co-signer. Case closed. Let them move on to the next prospective family victim.
They will never learn financial responsibility if the family keeps bailing them out. And one more thing.... Never do financial deals with your family and best friends. It has an 80% chance of ruining your relationship with your inlaws and friends.
If you have the cash and feel sorry for them then send a money order to the loan sharks to keep their payments up to date.
But make sure that there is no way that this could be interpreted as you assuming responsibility for their payments. One reason for using a money order and not your personal checks.
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